What is your ideal number of children to have? and what do you consider to be ideal age gaps

[sabrinathethirtysomethingwitch]

Have one DS aged 6 months. Already ppl are asking would we like number two. DH is keen and would love a small age gap. There are no other children in our families and he would like the company for DS. He thinks we need to aim for a two year gap.

I am so tired 😴. Don't know how I would cope with another. The thought fills me with dread atm to be honest.

If money wasn't an issue for us and could afford bigger house/car etc then I would have four. I would want to be a SAHM if that was the case though, and I'd want them all maybe 2 years apart. I adore my daughter and can't imagine anything better than a big family.

In the real world we can't afford double childcare (nursery) and neither of us earn enough for the other to be a SAHP. We're moving house but only into a 3 bed, I'm studying for a 3 year masters and we don't earn enough to comfortably have another one. She's 14 months now, going to wait til she's 2.5 and decide whether to try for another once she's 3 and gets free nursery hours and I'll have nearly finished my degree.

DD's such a lovely child I can't even imagine having another because I genuinely think she's perfect, and DP would happily stop at one, but I grew up best friends with my sister (3 year gap) and would love a sibling for DD. I think of all the times we went to the cinema together and played out together, and I'd love that for her too.

I have a 19 month old and am 9wks pregnant with number 2. They'll be about 2y3m apart. I'm nervous, but we also just wanted to get the baby/toddler boys over with. I think if we'd waited until DS was 4 or 5, we may have stuck with one so as not to go back to nappies, sleepless nights etc. We definitely only want 2 so thought it'd be best if they were closer together.

I have a one year old and pregnant with dc2. There will be a 18/19 month age gap between these 2. We wanted 2 years ideally but as we are also getting married next year, the timings would not have worked so we went a little early. We would also like a 3rd (and maybe 4th! See how 2 and 3 go first!). A 3rd would ideally have a similar age gap. If we had 3 and 4 then I would probably want them close together but with a bigger gap between 2 and 3. We will just have to see how we manage with 2 and what our finances allow for at the time. If finances stay as they currently are, 2 will probably be our max. We are still quite young (mid 20s) and so could leave a bigger gap of 10ish years to allow our financial situation time to grow. We will see.