Our son is 5 months old now. I do still feed him on demand but I know when he's feeding for food and when he's just seeking comfort. That's my decision to do that but in my fiancé's opinion I'm 'wrong' to do that because it means nobody else can comfort him. I feel like a terrible mother now because I want our son to be able to be comforted by his dad and our other family and I also feel like a failure as a partner because I've unknowingly been pushing him out. He said no matter what he suggests I always shut him down. For instance, he's adamant we should start weaning him like right now. I know he isn't ready, he's only 19 weeks and he's not quite sitting up by himself yet. But I feel like he's so desperate to take control of something that he's making all these wild suggestions that he can take credit for but they're just not right for him and weaning is a prime example of some of the things he's suggested. He's also took his head support out of his car seat because he's 'out grown it' when he absolutely hasn't. But it's going to cause an argument when he's seen that I've put it back in. So basically we're both really hurt over the things that have been happening. We went for a walk yesterday and he told me how he's been feeling and I listened to him and reassured him that I respect how he feels and we came up with ways that we can help change it. I also sincerely apologised, I had no idea how I'd been making him feel. Yet when it came to me telling him how I feel he immediately shut me down and got the face on with me and got all defensive. I just feel like he's been talking to his family about it all behind my back, his sister in particular whose got a one year old little girl. She was bottle fed though so she doesn't really understand where I'm coming from. So all his family are telling us all these things we 'should' be doing or comparing our son to their kids and i just find it so humiliating because I feel like I'm wrong to nurse him as often as I do. It's just a lot of expectation to live up to and a whole lot of pressure that I don't need. Another instance is that he's been going through a 4 month sleep regression which according to his sister is because he's breastfed, her daughter never went through it because she's bottle fed apparently. I know that's not true. So she and my partner are trying to force me to give him a comforter to sleep with. I do not feel comfortable with having anything in his cot with him. At least not right now, perhaps when he's a bit older. But again, this is because her daughter can't sleep without one. I'm not saying it won't work and I know they're probably only trying to help but like I said I just feel like it's a lot of pressure and I kinda just want everyone to back off with the unsolicited advice and opinion and let my baby guide me into what he needs, which is what I've been doing since he was born and, until recently, I was fairly content with that. He's settled himself into his own routine, completely baby led and it's perfect for us. So yeah I just feel crappy. I guess I just wanted to rant, I just feel really low and insecure in my mothering skills now and like a failure as a partner. :(