Your best memories with your Mum

[Pebblesandfriends]

Now a parent myself I wonder what I can do to make my daughter feel special. I guess I'm after ideas, what things that your Mum did made you feel special and still brings a smile to your face years on? I try and do a mummy daughter date once a year and I remember my Mum making bread with me and giving me bits of her dough to do my own mini loaf.

Mine would be my mum taking my sister and me to pick wild flowers on a hot summer day when I was about six, and then putting them into jam jars at home. It was only on a grassy bank next to a local path that ran behind a factory, but I will always remember it as one of my happiest childhood days.

Mine was taking Tupperware and picking winberries then going home and making a pie.
Once a year doesn’t sound very often though. Is there a reason you don’t have more 1-1 time with your daughter?

Theatre trips, Saturday morning ice cream sundaes then shopping, going to her room to say goodnight (she had an early bedtime) I would lie beside her and chat then give kiss goodnight.

I used to get her to towel try my hair in front of the fire after a bath, I loved it.

Sometimes when she was cooking she’d sneak me bits (usually a spoonful of the sugar/butter mix at the start of baking a cake) with a ‘shh’. At the time I felt so special but in hindsight I’m sure she did it to my siblings too!

I have a tiny perfume bottle the lady on the Givenchy counter gave me on a shopping day with my mum. I was about 4 or 5.
I also still have a piece of snoopy notepaper where I have drawn around 3 stones and my mum has written "this is a pinkish brown one with smooth edges" and the like. I remember doing these things while my elder sisters were at school and I was still at home.
Baking, lots, of course. I read a survey a few years ago which stated that the most popular childhood (fond) memory was baking with your parent and licking the bowl clean.
Buying me a flower press and showing me how yo use it. I still have it and it still contains flowers which I pressed as a child.
I remember her giving me a plate of cubed cheese and Apple to keep me in one place while she hoovered.
My mum is physically disabled and has been all my life, so lots of things we did were restricted (ie no walks with mum but we did go to the beach) but she made massive efforts to do lots with us.
My mum was and still is fabulous. I'm very lucky.

I guess I should do more purposeful one on one days, the reason it doesn't happen more often now is the fact she has a brother who enievitably wants to come too.

Pebbles I’m one of four and we never really got one-on-one time with our mum, the good memories are of all of us together. Don’t worry too much if you can’t manage it more than once a year, you can make good memories anyway