Don't really know where to post this tbh. Apologies for ranting in advance! (Short version in 4th para)
My dp stopped smoking yesterday.
Today he slept through his alarm. I woke up half an hour before he had to leave so I woke him up. Everything's normal. He goes get dressed and says "did you take my work trousers out the plastic?'
I reply " yes"
"Ffs why? I was saving them so I could just use one pair at a time, I told you to leave them"
"Sorry I didnt hear you ever say that, I'm not saying you didn't tell me but I just don't remember" (I unpackeaged all uniform when he got it about a month ago)
"Why would you move my stuff again? Dont touch my stuff anymore"
"OK I won't. Sorry. I didn't move it as such its in the same place I just neatened it up because most times I walked past I'd knock it off because they were all hanging off shelf"
He told me "ffs I can't quit smoking with you. You don't help. You don't listen. You're a bad parent. You're not a decent mum to your kids. You say you try to help but yesterday you shouted at Ds and dd was crying so much"
Shocked I said "well sometimes when we are both at home I can do things I want or need to do. Its not just me here"
"You shouted at D's"
"Yes? To get him to listen. You know that he doesn't always listen so we have to raise our voices"
"Dd crying she wouldn't leave me alone"
"Are you serious? She wanted to play with you. I can't hold her all day because there's things to do in the house and she needs to learn"
Gobsmacked! Yes I shout at my son he's 3yo and doesn't like to tidy up so much, get dressed, go to bed, ect. When hes excited he will jump and laugh and scream sillily (is that a word) so he genuinely won't hear you if you take a normal tone. However I do play with him, teach him things ect.
My dd does cry yes. She's 10m she's teething and full of cold ATM. She's likes a cuddle but often that's all she wants or to be picked up and walked around (even though she can walk herself) she likes looking close at the lamp shades, dartboard and pictures on wall.
Now I know I'm not a perfect parent. Who is? If you are, blimey I salute you! Parenting is hard work with 1 let alone 2! So hats off to everyone who has more than 2 kids, because you're doing a great job 