Ds is 8 (yr 4) and this year he has turned into someone I don’t even recognise. He is very rude and moody, I’m aware that at this age it can be down to hormones, to be honest I can cope with this for the most part.
So here’s the bit I need help with. My sons school had a park right next door, and he likes to go after school with his friends. However the second I say no we get full on meltdowns. I mean screaming, tears, throwing bags on the floor and stomping off. I very rarely say no, and when I do I feel I have to justify exactly why I can’t do what he wants every day. I remind him in the morning before school that we can’t go because of xyz to try and prevent the outburst on the playground. I also get the same reaction when I say it’s time to go home, even when I give him warnings of 5 more mins etc, but it’s the same every time.
I just don’t know what to do, I don’t want to ban him from going but I feel as though i put everything on hold just to stop the behaviour from him after school rather than trying to stop it. I have very early starts at work and some days I just want to get home.
Now when this happens I don’t react to his behaviour, I will pick up his bag or repeat myself and essentially let him have his outburst, but I have no idea if that makes it worse or not.