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Gifted/advanced - how do I cope as a parent

8 replies

Thatcrazymummy · 11/10/2018 03:26

Hello

I feel very silly writing this so I hope I won’t get judged badly

My child is a naturaly able learner and it is a passion of theirs . I don’t talk about the matter and I don’t push matters further in anyway

But the ability’s of my child will often come out in one way or another and be a talking point among parents/family . Often to my face and even More so behind my back I get a huge amount of judgement and criticism .

I get told that I’m forcing the child to be like this or that I’m not letting them be a child ( though they do everything any other child does also )
People can be cruel not only to me but to my child too constantly trying to test them or catch them out. Luckily the child’s mostly unaware of what the adults say but they get hassle from their peers too

I am aware that there must be other people who’s children do naturally well ? How do you cope and how can you support them??

I feel awful that I am embarrassed of my child’s capabilities and trying to hide there ability’s or play them down.

It’s not a subject you can comfortably bring up either

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IdaBWells · 11/10/2018 04:21

This subject sounds like a broken record, wasn't there a thread on the exact same topic yesterday?

Thatcrazymummy · 11/10/2018 05:13

I have no idea ... I’ll have a look ...

(There is very little information or support for people in the situation... I guess that’s why others asked too .... good )

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Jackshouse · 11/10/2018 11:25

There is a gifted and talented board.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Petalflowers · 11/10/2018 11:30

Ignore the criticisers. They are probably jealous.

As long as you are supporting your dc, rather than pushing her, you should be fine. Maybe take a step back, see what they are saying, and then take it from there.

If your dc is constantly tired, not enjoying the interest, has no down time then they may have a point. If the activity encourages the child and she loves it, then that’s fine.

Cutesbabasmummy · 11/10/2018 13:54

Ignore the others parents etc. They are just jealous!

LethalWhite · 11/10/2018 18:02

robojesus, is that you?!

Thatcrazymummy · 12/10/2018 00:22

I just feel like I’m failing them

Thank you I’ll look

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babbscrabbs · 12/10/2018 01:46

Praise the child's effort, not achievement, and encourage others in your family to do the same. Make sure they have down time. Ignore others questioning it and don't bring it up, if they do just come up with a stock phrase like "I don't mind if they get full marks or not, I just want them to be happy"

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