What do you do when your LO is wide awake when they should be fast asleep?

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DS is 8 months, currently getting his top two teeth through (1 down, 1 to go) and also at the early stages of crawling (army shuffling) so obviously his sleep is all over the place.

He's been waking at 1-2am nightly and just singing / talking / rolling around for an hour or so. No amount of soothing / dummy / feeding is getting him to go back to sleep. Last night I went in to try and resettle him 5 times in the space of an hour - in the end I gave up and muted the monitor and figured if he cried I'd hear him through the door but I couldn't take any more loud 'dadadadada' not sure if it was the right thing to do but in my sleep deprived state I was on the edge of losing it.

He goes to bed at 6.30 and usually has a dreamfeed at 10.30 and then sleeps through til 6.30-7am.

What do you guys do when faced with a very awake baby at naptime / bedtime / in the middle of the night?!

Well if he's not crying you need to learn to leave him to it. Singing and talking is fine.

Is leave him to it - might be his sleep cycle and he will naturally go back to sleep. Being able to self settle is a useful skill to develop. I wouldn't go in to soothe unless he's crying. Get some earplugs!

Same as ajas. Dd went through a phase of waking and no amount of rocking, singing, laying her on me etc would get her to sleep, so we just left her. She wasn't crying, just lying there staring spookily into the monitor!

Figured she'd make up for lost sleep in her naps. Only happened for a few instances.

Thanks everyone - I think the issue is I can't sleep at all if I hear he's awake, I just lay there getting more and more frustrated. We sleep 2 doors away and can hear him if he cries / shouts really loud but can't hear him chatting or mumbling unless we have the monitor on.

Should I just ditch the monitor at night time? I still worry about him at night and nights where he has slept through I wake up worrying why hasn't he made any noise!?

I would ditch the monitor. Ours broke at some point before 1 yr and I would wake up (even with earplugs from the DH snoring) if he was crying so we never replaced it. DS 2.5 still mumbles in his sleep and chats to himself in the morning and I don't go in unless he's crying from a bad dream or shouting "where are you?!!!"

If it's disturbing your sleep and effectiveness then don't feel guilty about turning the monitor off. At 6months plus they're safe to sleep on their own and you would hear or sense if something was wrong.

Ditch the monitor and get some sleep. If you can hear any actual fricking grumbling without the monitor you probably don't need it. I've never used one for DD at home apart from if I have friends round in the evening making a noise and I worry I won't hear her.

I always left DD to her own devices if awake and not crying.

I only use the monitor during naps or on an evening when I’m downstairs. I switch it off overnight as our bedroom is right next to the kids’ ones and I just leave our door open.

If he’s not crying then I’d just leave him and he should settle back down eventually. I’m the same in that it annoys me and I can’t sleep and can’t stop looking at the screen, but I still wouldn’t go in.

totally agree if just talking/grumbling then leave him too it.
I tend to do the same too. I have a monitor as it gives me peace of mind but if I'm in bed trying to sleep and ds wakes I tend to mute it as like you can also hear cries through the wall and otherwise it just keeps me awake also. you could wither mute it or ditch it all together if you prefer