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What are the "daddy jobs" with your LO?

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PGTips83 · 09/10/2018 13:57

Hi all!

No, I don't mean 'girl jobs' and 'boy jobs' like Theresa May! I'm interested to know if your other half has a set routine or task with your LO to take the load off? My husband does help out with our DD but it feels like I have to ask him to do specific things, whereas it might empower him as a dad to have specific roles. For example, a friend says that her OH always does bedtime, but mine isn't always home in time to do this so I'm looking for other suggestions.

Thank you!

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picklemepopcorn · 09/10/2018 14:00

Mine did bathtime.
How old is your LO? When is DH around? That makes a huge difference.

SK166 · 09/10/2018 14:06

Mine does bath and bottle, and when we all go out together he likes to carry her in the sling. He also likes to choose her outfit most days and will usually do the first nappy and get her dressed while I have breakfast. She’s still only 12 weeks so likes to be carried about most of the time and when they’re together she shouts at him until he carries her in this very specific way - we call it the throne! - and takes her round the house and garden showing her things. He works very long hours so isn’t around much but the time they spend together is very sweet and they have a close bond.

peanutbutter310 · 09/10/2018 14:07

Mine gets up with DD and spends 30-45 mins with her in the morning while I either get ready or lie in. He doesn't always see her in the evening, so views it as his chance to have some quality time.

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Welshmaiden85 · 09/10/2018 14:12

Bath time, taking eldest to school every day are the only regular jobs. He does cook from time to time. Maybe 1-2 times a week.

Tinkerbell89 · 09/10/2018 14:13

We just move things round to what helps that day. Sometimes if I do bath time he will do bedtime. He cooks our tea whilst I feed DD. Then he'll watch play with her whilst I clean up from tea. He will get her up in the morning and change her whilst I out her bottle on and make our hot drinks. We mix it up and it depends on when he is home from work but he does what he can to help and I really appreciate all he does. I'm lucky to have him as he wants to help. He'll also take her to the shops so I can have some quiet time. We mix it up.

PinkHeart5914 · 09/10/2018 14:20

I stay home ( although I do own a business) dh works full time

If the dc are awake before he goes to work (2 out of 3 normally are) he will get them up, feed them and dress them. He also always has coffee and toast waiting for me when I come downstairs

He gets home for bath & bedtime 2 times a week and he always does bedtime on a Saturday & Sunday.

I cooked for the dc as they have dinner at 5 due to being so small still but dh will cook for me and him later I the evening 5 nights a week as he loves to cook.

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PGTips83 · 09/10/2018 14:35

Thanks all! Mine is five months old and we are starting to feed her with a bottle, so the morning feed is an option too. Thank you! Other suggestions welcome :)

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Caterina99 · 09/10/2018 15:00

For a while we had a dreamfeed. That’s a bottle at about 11pm to fill them up so they sleep through til morning (allegedly). That was DHs job.

At the moment he gets them up (age 3 and 1) most mornings and gives breakfast. He usually takes the oldest to nursery on his days. If he’s home in time he’ll do bedtime with one of them, but that’s not guaranteed.

On a weekend we have one lie in each. And we usually try and each have a couple of hours child free time, so he’ll look after them both for that. He takes the oldest to his swimming lesson every week.

WeeCheekyBird · 09/10/2018 15:09

Mine gets her up every morning and gives her breakfast and changes her nappy until he needs to start work (he works from home).

We always had the agreement that I would do nights and he would do mornings as I am a night owl and found it easier. I catch on sleep in the morning and get lie ins at the weekend.

He takes her a walk to the shops most days to give me peace to catch up on housework so we can have couple time when she goes to bed.

He cleans the high chair and clears up after dinner while I bath her and get her ready for bed.

It works for us this way and means we are both actively involved but still get some "me" or "us" time too. I'm quite lucky as he loves being hands on. He does loads more when needed but that's his more defined "duties" :)

stiltonontoast · 09/10/2018 15:11

My DH and I basically rotate the jobs on a daily basis. If he does bedtime one night I'll do it the next etc. We always share bath time though because I find it so funny

Figmentofimagination · 09/10/2018 15:33

My DH is out of the house from 5am-4pm so misses mornings during the week. So he feeds DS his tea, and does bedtime. At weekends I work so he either gets DS up for the day, feeds him breakfast and lunch and puts him down for his nap, or if I'm working a later shift he does lunch, nap, tea and bedtime.

Figmentofimagination · 09/10/2018 15:34

And we both do bath time together 3 times a week

salopek · 09/10/2018 15:36

We have a rota . Some mornings he gets up with DD while I stay in bed for an extra hour, other days he will do dinner, bath and bedtime. But my H works from home a lot and has a flexible schedule.

NotUmbongoUnchained · 09/10/2018 15:37

He does reading as I can’t do it, I find it too enraging. He’s a lot more patient than I am. He also doesn’t mornings as I’m a crappy morning person.

I’m basically a mess and he makes everything better.

WakeUpSlow · 09/10/2018 15:43

DH does bath time, nursery run, gives any teething medication, gets up with her in the mornings/ picks an outfit out for the day. He also will get her milk/ water when she needs it. Sometimes takes her swimming or to the park on his own at the weekend. I'm pregnant again and still breastfeeding, doing any night wake ups and spend 2 days a week looking after her on my own while dh is at work so this feels quite fair.

JosellaPlayton · 09/10/2018 15:49

DH usually gets DD up in the morning and takes her to daycare as I take longer to get ready for work then he does. Bath/bedtime we take turns, the other one usually tidies up and starts cooking dinner.

SadieContrary · 09/10/2018 15:57

My DH takes our DD swimming. I've never enjoyed it as a pastime but love sitting on the sides watching and taking pics. Gives them 1-2-1 time and I do different activities with her like softplay as he detests it. Everything else like nappy changing, bath and dinner time is shared

Xiaoxiong · 09/10/2018 16:04

I think we have a pretty even split of roles - probably because he took 2 months of paternity leave when I went back to work full time, so we both have a very clear idea of what needs doing without one person managing the other. He can also use the school holidays to do a lot of stuff (teacher).

I do all meal planning, shopping and cooking (I find it relaxing). He does almost all tidying but I won't let him touch my home office which drives him mad as it's a tip.

I put in washing, we sort and put it away together while watching tv. He does pretty much all ironing.

We currently have childcare but soon I will be responsible for kids and school run Mon, Fri, Sat. He will be responsible Tues, Weds, Thurs. (This includes sorting out childcare cover if we need it.)

He does bath and bedtime every night unless he has to stay at work late (1-2 times a week).

He does bins and garden. I do all DIY, flat pack furniture, and car repairs.

He does insurances, utilities and presents/cards for family. I plan holidays and we organise savings and financial planning together.

He organises kids doctor and dentist appointments and haircuts. I organise school uniform and kids clothes and shoes.

gothefcktosleep · 09/10/2018 16:12

He is entertainment department

I am everything else

We often come together for an all hands on deck nappy situation

Before she was born we thought he would do the bath routine but she bloody hates baths, so that’s been shelved for a bit.

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