Middle child syndrome ?

[Fedup84]

Just after some advise really , three dd's 6,11 and 13. And I've always found my middle child to be very difficult . Mainly after my youngest was born .
Roll on now she is 11 it's getting really stressful , she seems to.delibrately seek attention by acting up , and what really irritates is if I'm having an adult conversation she butts in and tries to make me look 2 inches small. For example I may say " on last week I went and saw such a such film and it was pretty good " then she would say "yea but didn't like this and that about it " and it is driving me mad , if I say it's blue she will say it's red. she acts up , and embarasses me but seems to enjoy it knowing she is upsetting me . I'm really down about it and feel our bond is non existent at the moment. I was so happy she was off to a friend's house earlier 😑
Anyone have similar experience ?

My middle child is much better behaved than my other two. It could just be your DD's personality is more challenging to parent. Do you give her as much attention as you give the others? I'm not suggesting lack of attention is what is causing it but you said she started being like this when the youngest was born so it would be worth considering as a factor.
The thing about the film doesn't sound too annoying. If that is as bad as she gets she's maybe not that bad.

I’m sure there’s more to it than you’ve stayed above but I can’t see the problem with your cinema example? You said you enjoyed a film, she said what she didn’t like about it. That’s discussion/conversation. I can’t see how much she’s making you look 2 inches small?
11 can be a difficult age. Hormones starting to rear their head!

I'm a middle child myself, so understand where she is coming from!

When my middle child was playing up we made a policy of trying to find ways of doing things with her on her own. It really helped.

I'm a middle too and definitely struggled with it. I was a really well behaved child but a wild teenager and I think it might've been low self esteem and lack of attention in part. Could you do some one or one time together?

Sorry I meant she may have overheard me saying something I disliked about the film previously to someone else and then brought that up whilst talking to another (she didnt come with me to the cinema) its like she listens in to everything I say . I give her plenty on attention , I even took her shopping on her own last week and spent over 100 pounds on her. I get that shrwy have low self esteem , problem is she plays up for attention and it's so draining now and embarassing. She is rude to my mum , rude to my friends , they would talk to her and she will point blank ignore them so I'm constantly apologising 😒 I can't cope , it's like she is seeking attention in a negative way .