I shouted at my 11 month old :(

[ethelfleda]

I feel so awful.
He wouldn’t sleep for his second nap (perhaps getting ready to drop it??) I tried everything and decided to go for a drive - usually works like a charm. Grabbed myself a take away coffee and off we go. I’m at the furthest point from home and not only is he not asleep, but he started screaming and screaming and screaming. I tried to keep calm all the way home. Tried to talk to him but he couldn’t hear me over his own noise. Then I shouted. I can’t even remember what I shouted. I think it was his name or ‘calm down’ and then I started losing my rag with people driving so slowly. Was literally just around the corner from home. By the time I got back he was in a right state. I actually hate myself a bit now.

What can I do to keep calm in future?? I tried so hard not to lose my rag but I’m so bloody wound up all the time!!

Don’t be hard on yourself. A crying baby is very stressful - I literally feel like my insides are being churned up when my baby really cries!!
Don’t hate yourself, you’re human and DS will not remember. It sounds like a one off, out it behind you.

I shouted at my 11 month old a couple of weeks ago and felt awful. She cried and I felt like the worst mum ever. But she doesn't remember and it was a one off. Don't beat yourself up.

I find singing helps me to stay calm. You can't sing if you're angry!

That should be, you can't be angry if you sing!

Hey! Don't worry, you're only human, I have also done this and felt absolutely terrible afterwards. When baby got stressy I just thought ahead to the future, he's not going to be screaming forever or be a baby forever if that makes any sense at all aha. My DC is 5 months and is super chill, he used to have a morning and afternoon nap but now screams if I force him to have an afternoon nap, so I just cut it out and he seems happier just bobbing around and playing on his mat etc etc, I guess he was frustrated because he wasn't tired 😴

Your human! I wouldn’t overly worry about keeping him calm but more yourself. With regards to the nap my 14 month old dropped down to one herself by a year, sleeps from 10-12.

Your not the first to do and you won’t be the last. I’ve been there where I’ve raised my voice and snapped and then thought wait that’s not actually going to help but we’re only human and a screaming baby can be very stressful. My DS is one now and had well dropped that second nap in the afternoon at 11months so that might be it! DS sleeps 10.30-12.30 and straight through the night 7-7