How do you deal with your young child’s bad behaviour at school?

[QueenofmyPrinces]

My son is 4 and has just started school.

In school there are 6 ‘behaviour boards’ the children can end up on and each child is allocated their board at the end of the day dependent on how they’ve behaved during the day.

The boards are:

Fantastic
Brilliant
Happy Face
Warning
Sad Face
Sent to another classroom.

My son has been on the Sad Face board twice and the warning board once.

The other times he has always been on the Fantastic, Brilliant and Happy Face boards.

The first time he ended up on the Sad Face board was because he was throwing toys and didn’t stop despite a warning.

The second time he ended up on it was because he hit another boy

The time he was on the warning board was because he was throwing toys but did stop when he was warned.

When the children do something naughty (for want of a better word) they have to sit in the ‘time out’ area of the classroom for five minutes and then they can rejoin the class.

If a child ends up on the warning board or worse then the parent is notified of it at pick up.

Can I ask your opinions on what you would do if your child ended up on the Sad Face boards for the reasons my son did?

Would you punish them about it at home or would you just accept it was dealt with in school and apart from talk to your child about it you’d not be issuing punishments?

Me and DH are clashing over how we feel with things and I’m just interested in what other parents would do, or have done.

Any advice much appreciated.

I wouldn't punish a 4 year old again. Teacher dealt with it.

I would be 'very disappointed' I though.

If it was becoming an issue though I'd maybe have a little treat or sticker ready for every good day/week.

School dealt with it.
Let him talk or role play but don't issue secondary punishments!

On the weekend play school with you and dad as the pupil s might help him tell you how he understands the rules...

I would say for one offs school have dealt with it but home should support school by having a conversation about acceptable and unacceptable behaviour.

I'd only expect home to sanction in support of school if a child is persistently not behaving.

E.g. Child is on report (I'm thinking secondary here) for poor behavoour across a number of subjects so home might remove weekday console time until behaviour improves.

I'm not a fan of a blanket school is school and home is home becayse by secondary we get some students who behave appallingly and know that they can still not do their homework, go out, sit on x box because home say 'well teacher kept you in at break'.

Our school have completely transformed their way of doling punishments. They personally greet all children when they come in the classroom. They’ve done away with all the points calendars/ smiley face nonsense and praise in public but chastise in private so they can get to the heart of the matter. 4 is a bit young to expect perfect behaviour. Children who really go the extra mile get chosen to go to the staff room for tea and biscuits in the staff room on Fridays. They used to make children lose their together time if the continued to be naughty. Maybe you can join the parent council and suggest the school change their approach? My son was never really naughty but did get demoralised that he didn’t get positive points on his calendar. This was due to being shy and not one to be in your face trying to impress the teacher.

Last p.p. is right.
Keep the positive ones up but stop shaming four year olds
They are 4
They are learning.
Take them aside tell everyone what is expected.
We share
We don't throw etc.