KNOCKING on your DCs bedroom door

[ahundredtimes]

So last night I knocked and went in and ds1(9) said this to me:

You knock to show you respect my privacy but then why do you insist on asserting you authority as my mother by coming in anywaaaay?

DS1 doesn't actually express himself quite like this usually, I think he must have got it from somewhere. He looked extremely pleased with himself when he said it, and I was open mouthed.

BUT does he have a point? Am I supposed to knock and then wait to be summoned in, or just dispense with the knocking thing altogether?

Opinions please.

100x - in that case, I didn't say you couldn't BEG!!!!!

"PLEASE can I come in and give you a cuddle....PLEASE?????"

Actually - I bet if you hadn't come in, 5 minutes later there would have been a sad little face looking round your door asking for a kiss!

Hated my mum always knocking then opening the door almost in one movement - may as well have left the door open. When I was about 12 I finally got her to knock and then ask 'can I come in' and I'd say yes or 'hang on' if I was doing anything secret (in my case it was reading books she wouldn't have approved of). Can't remember ever saying no at that time (until 15-ish and fully in teenage mode and had just had an argument with the parents), but if I had she'd have asked why and if there wasn't a good reason she'd have come in anyway.

Day she started asking was one of the best of my childhood , actually gave me control over my privacy.

Oh Franny it's not the waiting thing, it's the NO ENTRY thing that worries me. Though I think Bishy has it covered, I reckon they don't say NO much.

Secrets? What? Of course. It's expected in this house.

DS1 was just pointing out the basic hypocrisy of knocking and then entering that's all. And I was wondering what others do.

I think that once they start demanding privacy you are entitled to leave them to clean and tidy their own rooms.

we have just had to start knocking on DS (9) door as we have caught him a few times doing things that little boys do. We have also had to explain to him that if he wishes to do that, he must shut his door.

What your ds said comes from Fairly odd parents a kids programe.

[yes i know i am sad to know that]

But dp and i have alwways said when the kids are older we will knock in hope that they will realise we are respecting there privacy.

Ahah! We have discovered his source! Excellent.
Hope they don't make a habit of pointing out parenting hypocrisy on that programme though, otherwise I'm really for it. . . .

Hang on - did you say it's called Fairly Odd Parents? It's not a reality programme is it.

i KNEW i'd heard that phrase b4!!!!

that programme is popular with my boys!

WHAT is it clutter? Is it about Fairly Odd Parents, will they be putting me on the programme? Am nervous.

DD age 5 said no grown ups allowed in her room until I pointed out that she would be hoovering it herself. Then I was allowed in no probs-lol.

LOL

its a carttoon about bizarre gfairy god parents

know what you mean 100x!!!

mine basically seem to think that cartoons are the real world...and i suppose that means we are in a 'reality show'...to be featured on their cartoons!!!

OOoooh! I bet i'm losing you all now!!!!
( i have 2 boys with autism...and they really do see things differently!)

Why you don't want to enter a teenage boy's room without knocking and waiting a few seconds.

oops! 100x...yes it's only a cartoon...no real life involved|!!!

CJ my HFA ds1 has to ask whether carttons are real or not as well

peachy...glad you know what i am on about!!!

lol, yes I understand what you're saying though mine are nt, but DS1 clearly wanted to make it part of his reality didn't he? Smart arse kid.

haha 100 - was about to post that your DS1 sounded scarily bright and you need to watch out - gleaning telling phrases from tv programmes to use for his advantage is worth watching out for too.

when ds1 was 4yrs he said to me (in response to me telling him to hurry up we didn't have time) 'mummy i can't change time, but time can change me' I took a few seconds to realise it was some of the lyrics from David Bowie - 'changes' gleaned from shrek II.

you can just imagaine him sat there thinking 'that's a usefull thing to say next time !'

oh bishy...that is a lad after my own heart!! i love lyrics!!!

how amazing at that age!!!

lol. Yes, we will have to vigilant. I remember once swimming with ds1 when he was about 2 and I took him across the pool and when we reached the other side he said 'Thank you for my lift into town big ears'

NOTHING to do with this thread...but following on....

yesterday my ds1 had a friend round...at 5.30 his friend's sister arrived to tell him to come home....

i said..."hello ...is it time for X to go home?2

she replied...very seriously..."well, it will be when the big hand is on the 9"

i just smiled !!!

LOl

At ds1's speech therapya ssessment the therapista sked him what his fave food was

@chicken skin, and cheese and pickle sarnies he answered' (despite not being able to at cheese LOL)

She said' I like cheese and onion, do you like those?'

His reply was
' I am not interested in onions therefore I would not partake of those'

!!

(He was 6 at the time)

I have nothing of any use to add, but having walked in on my then-14 year old DS at an inopportune moment, I am all for knocking on doors - we couldn't look at each other for weeks afterwards.
Also - I can't recommend Fairly Odd Parents highly enough - I'll probably be lynched for saying this, but it's as good as The Simpsons.