My sons are late thirties and middle thirties live together in a flat paid for by HB. The eldest is a lovely and easy good natured the youngest a bit like their father controlling in a way. The eldest has never really worked he spends most of his time playing online games he is happy with this and I have had to come to terms this is what he wants in life though it saddens me deeply and I don't agree with his choice. The youngest he has only worked part time and studied is well educated but not working for the past two years. At the moment they seem to be struggling for money both on UC, they can afford high speed fibre. ! I work full time and so does my new partner, we are not well off and to be honest juggle like most.. The youngest has accused me basically of not supporting them and I could do more. Just was wondering am I wrong to thing they should just get a job, the youngest thinks I should accept the oldest will never change and work and should give him money I would for food of course if needs be