Mum really sad about son going off to uni

[tensmum111]

Hi sorry if this is in the wrong topic/thread
I'm the above mentioned son, and I'm going off to uni in a few days.

I'd love some advice for me and me mum for helping us both cope with my departure. I'm actually not too sad about having to leave home, but what I am sad about, is my mum getting sad (unfortunately not something I can relate to with my friends)

Basically my mum isn't living a healthy life anyways - she doesn't have any friends that she regularly contacts, she doesn't have any hobbies and doesn't do anything in her free time (she spends almost all of her time in the house, either resting, doing chores or watching tv). This isn't good, but she seems to be content most of the time.
Now I'm concerned that once I'm gone, she'll feel lose one of the very few sources of joy in her life? She's already cried a bit, and I'm scared she's going to find it really hard to cope without me, at least at the start.
I want her to try clubs, social activities, but not being able to speak English makes it so much harder for her...
What else can she try? How can I convince her to take up English lessons again, or try new sports/exercising? I just want her to be occupied, and not be thinking about me.

What a lovely son you are. Are there other family members in the household or just you? It would be great for your mum to improve her English as that must be very isolating. Are there any courses running in the daytime? The local library may have leaflets. Could she go swimming as there wont be language barriers there. Often there are ladies only sessions and if she goes regularly, she may get to know people.

Are there any meet up groups associated with your mother's native country/culture where she might feel more comfortable before venturing further.

Could she get a pet such as a dog which will make her go out and give her days a focus.

What language does your mother speak and where are you based? There might be community groups for people where your mothers from. That might make her a little more comfortable with venturing out.

You do seem a lovely caring son.

A cat or budgie might help a lot.

Our children help us to grow up ourselves in my experience! She may surprise you after a while. There will be heaps of things she could do or join in - perhaps a social club for her native language speakers?

Try not to feel responsible for her happiness.

Enjoy university!