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Lifting 4 year old for last wee at night - it doesn't work!!!

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bloss · 24/08/2004 04:18

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SoupDragon · 24/08/2004 07:50

Personally, I'd give up. You really want him to learn to wake up of his own accord - if you keep "lifting" him, when do you stop? How do you know that he's ready or that he's learnt to wake himself?

Have you ever tried longer than a week or do you give up and go back to nappies (and I don't blame you!!) Just wondering if it would click if you left it longer. I was on the verge of giving up day potty training with DS2 after 2 weeks with little success and it clicked on what I'd decided would be his last day.

It could easily be that he's not ready - the body has to be producing enough of some hormone or other that stops the bladder filling up so much at night. If he's not producing enough of it yet, he won't be able to manage being dry at night unless he's excellent at waking up when he needs to go. As I understand it, lots of children are still unreliable at night when they're 7.

Demented · 24/08/2004 09:43

We lift DS1 at night but only because he was dry through the night for a year to 18 months and then started regularly wetting, no reason why but we started lifting him rather than put him back in nappies at night then it got to the point that if we didn't lift him he would wet the bed. I would say if he won't go when you lift him I would just leave it. I always said that I wouldn't lift a child at night to go to the toilet, felt that if they needed lifting then they weren't ready however I don't feel it would be a positive thing to put DS1 back in nappies at night. However I do hope that the incidences of him weeing when we lift him will just get less and less and hopefully we will know it's time to stop.

clary · 24/08/2004 10:33

Bloss I had a sort-of similar experience in that I lifted my DS1 (he was 4) but it was not much help...he generally wouldn't do a wee (too asleep/"there's no wee there mummy!" and if he did, he still wasn't always dry! Sometimes even with no wee he was dry...so I decided it wasn't helping and gave up. As soup said, he needs to learn to go through anyway. I think if lifting works then fine, but if not why disturb their sleep? Maybe he isn't ready. We cracked it with DS by stopping all juice and squash all day, lots of drink but just milk or water as squash etc is supposed to encourage weeing in night. HV said stop squash etc after 4pm so I just took it to the max. DS was fine about it. Better for him anyway. He's now 5 and really reliable since, ooh, start of the year? DD by the way was 2.5 dry in the day, then a couple of months later dry at night. they do vary don't they!

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clary · 24/08/2004 10:33

sorry, un-intended wink there

bloss · 24/08/2004 11:45

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clary · 24/08/2004 11:53

just to clarify bloss, no, I agree, don't restrict his liquid (the opposite if anything) as he has to learn the feeling of a full bladder. If he doesn't have squash or juice anyway then I guess go on as you are. He's young yet to worry, I know loads of 5yos still in night nappies.

discordia · 24/08/2004 12:16

Sympathy coming your way, bloss. My ds is 5 and a half and really wants to give up his night time nappy but is physically not ready. My dd was 6 and a half before she was dry at night so I'm not holding my breath!

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