How do you get a 1yr old to do anything

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

My LO is 14 months and every day every task is a bloody nightmare: brushing the teeth, getting dressed, cleaning the snot from her face...= screaming, throwing herself around, kicking...how do you reason with a 1year old? I’ve tried distracting her, speaking calmly and on the odd occasion screaming back (yes sorry I’m human)

Have you tried making it silly? There's a great book called Playful Parenting - sometimes it takes a little longer to turn into a game, but it's worth adding 30 seconds of play to save 10 mins of crying.

Little baby bum solved my difficulty brushing my one year olds teeth. She now lets me do it most of the time without even putting the teeth brushing video on. Other stuff getting her involved in doing it and asking her first seems to help but there’s still plenty of fighting getting dressed and nappy changing. Otherwise as suggested above making a game of things sometimes helps.

I will definitely try both these ideas - thank you for responding. I had such an easy baby and I knew the toddler stage would be hard (I have some karma from my child hood due to me) but I didn’t expect it so young, it’s called “terrible twos”.

With both mine, age 1-2 has been much harder than 2-3! After 2 I was generally able to reason with them. There’s very little reasoning with a 1 year old! Then at 3 the answering back and stroppiness started...

I pick my battles! Obviously my 15 month old has to have his nappy changed and get dressed so sometimes that’s just a struggle. He also has to have his teeth brushed, but sometimes I’ll cut out short if he’s yelling too much (we do them 3 times a day so am not too horrified by this every now and then).

Games and slings are good, and he’s also far more willing if copying he - hardly ever complains at getting dressed at swimming when I am too, same for teeth brushing, shoes, everything.

I have a 14 month old too and am definitely having the same problem particularly teeth brushing issue! I actually dread teeth brushing. Some good suggestions above I will also try!
she cooperates with getting dressed and loves having shoes and socks put on but nappy changes are stressful!
She constantly wants to be picked up (by me only) at the moment and she’s basically moaning or screaming unless she’s touching me which means my house is a bit of a shit tip, I can’t get anything done. It also seems like she’s just noticed we own a dog and has begun to terrorise the poor thing. She also constantly pulls my glasses off my face, I say “i can’t see without my glasses” my dh looks at me as if I’ve gone mad because like you say, there’s no reasoning at this age but I still feel like i should be explaining why she shouldn’t do it.

glad to know this is "normal"- tried the baby bum tooth brush song last night which definitely helped- doubt she realised we were copying the song but it distracted her enough for me to get the brush to make contact with the teeth.

I agree about starting to explain to them "why this and why not that" from a young age, just to get into the habit. (Bloody hell the piercing shreek is hard to handle though)- good luck all