Putting baby to bed

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My DC is 4 weeks old, and at the moment I am being pretty loose with routine and following his lead. During the day he takes his naps in a carrycot or sling as I have 2 other DCs to look after. At the moment he seems to start getting fussy around 7, have a feed then falls asleep on me. As we don’t get a chance to have lovely newborn cuddles during the day I usually let him stay in my arms until his next feed when we will both go up to bed. My mum is constantly telling me I shouldn’t be allowing him to do this and should take him up to bed after the 7pm feed. I fully intend to do this once he hits 6/7 weeks or so but at the moment am really enjoying the chance to give him cuddles when the older 2 are in bed. Is this weird or normal? I feel like everyone I speak to is telling me to put him upstairs already

I don’t have children yet I’m pregnant with my first but all that springs to mind here is your baby your choice. If your happy doing this then I think you should continue for now he’s so young and does need time snuggled up to his mummy. I see no harm here at all :) xx

They're meant to sleep in the same room as you until they're 6months old so I wouldn't put them upstairs in the evening.

I used to let DS sleep on me until I went to bed to. It was lovely having the cuddles. He's now a crazy 13month old so I don't get cuddles anymore

You’ve obviously done something right along the way if the older 2 are in bed early and giving you the opportunity for cuddles with the youngest! Just remind your Mum (or anyone else with an unwelcome opinion) of that next time something is said.

And I did what you did too in the beginning- DD is a great sleeper and has slept through for 12 hours in her own bed from 3 months old. So it certainly didn’t do us any harm either! She’s now 15 months and I’ve just started to get cuddles again.

I think I was stricter with the older 2 as I was a bit younger and desperate to get my evenings back, whereas this is my last baby and I want to enjoy some time just holding him and staring at his face! Thanks you’ve made me feel better already

Some aren’t as lucky as being able to put them to bed at 7 at such a young age!

Think at that stage my baby wouldn’t sleep until at least 2.30 am. So I’d say totally normal.

Oh my goodness, don't listen to them at all!! Definitely enjoy the cuddles! I'd even go way beyond the 6/7 week mark! It's just not true that you can spoil a baby, the more physical closeness to you they get at this age the better for their development.

It is weird and unsafe to put a newborn to bed by themselves. It is entirely normally and good for your baby to have lots and lots of cuddles.

Your baby needs to have all sleeps in a room until they are 6 months old to reduce the risks of SIDS.

The issue is with some babies is the earlier you put them down the earlier they'll wake. Mine is 5 months and still goes up when I do, around 9pm and sleeps til about 6:30-7. Ive always just put him to bed when we go, and eventually hes got earlier on his own as he used to go down at 11pm. Next month im going to try and put him up on his own, as i think hes getting ready for 8pm. Some people are obsessed with getting them to bed at 7pm but babies don't work like us. Take no notice and do what you feel is right!

My baby 8 months and bedtime is 9 he gets up either 8 or 9