Feel like a complete failure.

[Babyshark2018]

I have an 11 week old baby. I love her so much and sometimes she is so smiley and happy. But other days she will literally cry all day.

However, she has problems with colic and often won’t be put down.

I’ve signed up to a couple of baby groups. Twice this week I have left early because she is screaming inconsolably. While the other Mums are there with their lovely peaceful babies.

What are they doing that I’m not? I’ve burst into tears in the car on the way home several times because I feel like I have completely failed at being a Mum. I don’t want to stop going to these groups (one of them is swimming) as I don’t want to be stuck in the house but I just feel awful being the one stood up/ fussing over the baby. I have some lovely Mum friends but I feel like they don’t understand.

Please tell me I’m not the only one.

Ds2 was like this - none of my other 3, it really was just him, no failed parenting involved (or at leaat, no more failed than the rest of them) He did seem to have reflux but the medicine didn't help much and made him constipated - ultimately it was just time, and adjusting expectations.
Side note on slings - at this age your baby really is much better facing inwards, especially as they'll need to nap and it's not meant to happen facing out. You'll find some instructions for fabric wraps facing outwards online but please don't do it! There isn't the proper support..

In the meantime, don't worry about your parenting, you are doing a good job and when the others have fussy second children and your tricky baby turns into an easy toddler (happened to me, at least!), you'll have a turn at bring the relaxed one making it all look easy 😊

Hello!
I could have written this myself. LO had colic and silent reflux. I paid €100 for a baby massage class and never got to do any massage! Spent every class trying to stop her crying/ feeding/ rocking crying myself

It seemed to have righted itself at about 12 weeks. Is it improving at all as the weeks go on do you think? We tried ranitidine but it's very hard for them to keep down as it tastes like shite

What really helped us though was changing to Hipp Organic formula, holding her upright for 20mins after a feed, winding really well, tummy massage (I took the notes from the class so it wasn't a complete waste!), a wedge pillow at night, sling time, brown sugar in water, small frequent feeds rather than large ones.

Thank you stuckforfourthtime, I didn’t know that! Will keep slings as they are for now and persevere.

Mrsmelonball she’s almost 12 weeks now and she seems to be getting fussier as she is awake more