Having big behaviour problems with DD1 ! Need help !!!

[Summerfruit]

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Could she be picking up the agression from somewhere - playgroup, TV etc? She must havee heard "I'm going to punch you" somewhere. I ask, as I observed similar behaviour in my son in terms of agression. When I thought about it, I think we were just seeing an exaggerated form of what happened at home when we were stressed. We were never actually agressive to him, he has never been smacked, but we were verbally agressive. Could this be the case with your dd?

Try and find out where she's hearing this language and try to make sure she doesn't hear it any more.

I sympathise though. I found 3 the toughest age with both mine. Very very willful, stubborn and argumentative.

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My DS1 was like this after the birth of ds2. He was 2 and became aggressive towards me. It lasted for quite a while and his behaviour was demanding in other ways. The birth of a sibling must be very difficult especially when you are used to having two adults to yourself.

This is hard to manage, but try and spend some special time on your own with her. Reassure her that she is very important to everyone in the family. Maybe let her 'help' with the new baby,by fetching things, singing to the babyetc. If she wants to, let her hold the baby(with support). It takes incredible patience to try and manage this kind of situation when you are sleep-deprived.

My DS at 7 is no longer aggressive towards me. He is very loving and caring, and is very fond of DS2(well some of the time anyway)

One thing I did with my son was recognise that he needs an outlet for anger and frustration so I am trying 2 things:

1. We have a list of golden rules which he helped draw up and identified what we did that really annoyed or upset him.

2. Mummy and daddy have a pebble jar which he can take pebbles out of when he thinks we have done something unjust. When the jar gets to the bottom he gets a treat!

We have just started this and it was to recognise that sometimes when we are stressed, he gets a rough deal. It is also to give an outlet for his agression.

Good luck!

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