We have just received a call from my 14 y/o step daughters school informing us that she has disclosed to a worker that she is having sex and sex with her boyfriend last week. He is 16/17. She was put on the pill a few weeks ago by her mom mainly to try and manage her periods as she suffers from heavy and irregular periods together with excruciating pain. She told us that her mom made her tell the nurse at the family planning clinic that she is having sex and has continually told us that she isn’t and that she isn’t stupid. Having spoken to her mom she said she didn’t force her to say anything and that she suspected she was having sex but didn’t keno’s for definite. We are now stuck on what to do. Given the boys age we are concerned that he pressured her into it but obviously can’t say for sure because she is known to be a bit of a liar when it comes to some things to try and get herself out of trouble. Do we:
a. Stop her seeing him and potentially make it worse because she’ll just sneak off and see him anyway or potentially self harm as she has in the past
b. Contact the police as it is technically rape as she is only 14 and risk making it worse
c. Contact social services for advice as she seems to be out of control
Our main concern is that she could end up pregnant as we don’t think she has been taking the pill properly. Some advice would be greatly appreciated.