My partner and I separated about 5 months ago. He lives at home with his Mum (+4 others) whilst I live on my own with our year old daughter.
He is currently trying to drag me through mediation for shared custody of her; he has her every weekend Friday to Sunday and also sees her on a Wednesday. In m mind he sees her enough. He also doesn't work, has never worked, doesn't pay me maintenance and is all round a bit useless to be perfectly honest.
Our daughter stays with me Monday to Friday morning and then stays with him every weekend but she comes home unsettled and upset and out of her routine. Whenever I try to tell him that her routine has changed and he needs to do this instead of that, he challenges me by not doing it!!! It's really frustrating as I have no control over what happens when she's with him. He constantly feeds her jar food which is frustrating for me because I'm trying to allow her a variety. I know there's nothing wrong going with jars BUT he feeds her jars for breakfast, lunch and dinner and then tries to call me out because she's eating what I'm eating when she's here (vegetables and meat etc). I'm also trying to introduce cows milk , as she has teeth now and is a year old and the benefits of cows milk are better for her now than formula and he says I'm ridiculous. He never listens and always has to combat me. What can I do!?