Second child - routine???

[Beeperbird]

DS2 is 6 weeks old and currently feeding constantly (growth spurt is driving me nuts!) I’m breastfeeding on demand at the moment.
DS1 is now 2.5 yrs old but I remember when he was a similar age I tried to get him into a routine on advice of the health visitor ie eat, play, sleep. I didn’t insist on anything but he did settle into a nice routine after a bit.
Poor DS2 is currently just having to go along with what I’m doing with DS1 and catching a nap in the car, sling or buggy but with no routine.
Is this ok to do?? Obv in a bad patch with cluster feeding during the growth spurt at the mo but wondering if I should be trying to put him down for naps at more scheduled times to help him out!

I wouldn't worry. I have DD2 and she is 3 months old. She just had to slot into our family as I also have a 4 year old who is full of beans and won't sit quietly while baby sleeps.

Once the cluster feeding phase passes things will be easier. I can read my babies cues now and if she's looking tired I will either feed or rock her to sleep. Not ideal but it's what I did with DD1 and it works for us.

Routine will come in time. Just go with the flow for now and enjoy those new baby snuggles.

Hahaha what routine? My DS is nearly 8 months and he's now got a bit of a routine ie rough bedtimes and nap times, but he's just done that himself after being totted around with big bro for several months. I like feeling more relaxed this time around! x

I really wouldn’t worry about it Beeper, KO will probably settle into their own routine soon enough. The eat, play, Sleep comes from The Baby Whisperer which in all honestly isn’t evidence based and is on the Kellymom Books to Avoid list so I don’t think you or LO are missing much

I wouldn't worry just now. At six weeks with my youngest I was just getting used to the two of them on their own! My eldest was 2 when youngest was born.

For the first few months they both just kind of ate and slept around getting out for the day because it was over the summer. It wasn't really until youngest was 4 months old he had a routine. Eldest went to a childminder in the mornings so youngest napped then. Then we all had lunch. Then it was out for the afternoon and youngest would nap in the pram. Or if we stayed home they would both have an afternoon nap!! Miss those days!!

DC1 is 2.5. DC2 is 9 months. By this point with DC1 he was sleeping 9-10 and 1-3 in his cot and had a lovely round of music classes and sensory stuff etc.

DC2 sleeps roughly those times in my arms or in the buggy and spends her time doung what DS is doing.

I had to accept a long time ago DD will never have a routine as good as DS's but there it is! I had a thread about it a few months ago. I'm trying to find it relaxing to be going with the flow.

Thanks that’s very reassuring!! I need to just relax about it all I think but worried about screwing him up for the future! He loves the carrier I’ve got and will happily sleep in it, feed in it etc so I should prob count myself lucky and go with the flow!!

It really won’t cause problems in the future. My DSIL was a huge fan of routine and followed the Baby Whisper’s routine rigidly, DN didn’t sleep through till seven. Not weeks or months, years! I really would prefer to go with the flow at this age. My DC2 fell into a nice routine of sleeping on the preschool run quite quickly once September came.