Do you miss having just one child?

[chinchinny]

Just wondering if when you have more than one child if you miss one on one time with them. I'm sure there are lots of advantages of giving your child siblings but I am struggling with the idea of letting go of time with my one child and sharing myself between two children with a large age gap.
Dh wants another but I haven't been keen so we have waited 6 years

Im sure if and when dc2 comes along I will be fine but I'm not sure about logistics and sometimes I think it would be so much easier to just stick with one

I've never really saw the appeal in large age gaps.

No, not at all. Much prefer having my 3

No. Now the youngest is a bit bigger we carve one on one time with each of them as well as family time anyway. I wouldn't have it any other way now.

Just to add, you still get one on one time. Plus it's always nice to have a sibling regardless of age gap.

Leavesorange I didn't plan it .. just needed convincing!

No, but I wish I’d realised how easy my life was with one when I thought it was so hard.

No. I only have a 2 year age gap, so I don't really remember what it was like with just one!

I do wish I appreciated how much easier it was with just one. I can't believe I ever thought things were hard with just a baby having gone on to do them with a baby AND a toddler! I also miss having more money because I was still able to work full time with just one lot of childcare to pay for.

You do still get one on one time with your children. They both need you in different ways at different times. It's also nice the age my kids are at because they entertain each other much better than I could now. It's amazing how much my youngest misses having his older brother to play with when he's at school in the afternoons!

I waited 9 years because baby 1 and baby 2. I didn't regret the wait. I then waited 4 years between baby 2 and 3.

Yes I had more one on one time with my eldest and he got alot more material things. Buy child 2 and 3 are alot close to each other and spend all their time together

I have a really close gap, 14 months, but I love being a mum to two and don't miss having just the one because watching them smile at each other is literally the best thing in the world.

We have a 6+ age gap between dc1 and dc2 and if I’m being honest yes I do miss just having the one .

Dc2 is only 6 months and a terrible sleeper so that is probably clouding my judgement . But our bond with dc1 is totally different and I miss spending time with him.

Also going back to the baby days again is like starting all over again but being even more tired because you can’t just laze about or have lie ins as you have the school run etc do.

That's what I'm worried about greywillow

I don't think I would have a big age gap for the above reasons.
I think you are going to have them, then have them around the same time.
I dont see the appeal in big age gaps.

I'm personally quite rigid about the sort of age gap I would want to the point that if I don't conceive by the time DD is a certain age I would rather just have her as an only.

I think with a large gap it's hard to find things for both kids to do, one inevitably gets dragged along awkwardly a lot of the time.

On the other hand an older child is more self-sufficient which could make the demanding baby stage easier.

Nooo
Having more than one means I've always got a favourite no matter who is being a CF

SnuggyBuggy
Interesting. What age gap would you say? As I feel the same.

I had an only for almost 5 years and I knew it was great and easy, but having dd2 has been an amazing experience for lots of reasons and I'm very glad to have my 2 dc.

I know though that I wouldn't enjoy 3, 2 is my number, with this exact age gap.

I personally don't feel I could cope with a new baby and a school run so if I haven't conceived with enough time to get over the worst of the newborn stage before DD starts in reception I might just call it quits. Also I imagine by then I may well be shampooing my hair regularly again and the thought of returning to the baby twilight zone might fill me with horror

A too small age gap would also be difficult, although I can see some advantages when they're older. My DD is quite high needs, couldn't put her down without her screaming at all for the first 10 weeks and she cluster feed for hours. A small toddler at the same time would be difficult.

I had a 3 year gap with my DSis which worked ok mostly. I guess 2-3 years seems the most appealing.

Ideally I'd like a Norland nanny

SnuggyBuggy dd2 was born 2 weeks after dd1 started reception. I had our lovely CM collect and drop dd1 home up until Christmas because she walked right past our door but it was so lovely having all day with just dd2, napping when she did but being able to do the school run for that first year after that. It was perfect (for me).

I know it's not for everyone but just to say the other side

I have a 7 year age gap between DSS(8) and DS(nearly 2). DSS is with us most of the time and we get a lot of one on one time together. Because of his age he stays up at least an hour or two later than DS so we get quality time together most nights. DH will often take him out for a day or I'll take him to the cinema just the two of us. We both alternate taking him to his weekly hobby and watching him.

It's a lovely age gap. And they get on beautifully because DSS is secure enough to say "I am going to go play in my room for a bit" when he wants some peace and quiet away from DS! But they are glued to each other most of the time.

I have a seven year age gap between my two and it’s been lovely. They both get one to one and they both adore each other. There’s nine years between my brother and I too and I neither of us feel like we were hard done by and have always had a close relationship.

No her and DH fill my world

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Just catching up with all the comments.. which I'm pleased to see are mainly positive!