Dilemma on whether to have second child

[katylb23]

Hello, I have a nearly 4 year old and am having a massive internal dilemma on whether to have a second child or not. I never envisioned only having one child but feel like I am just about coping with having one. Me and my partner both work full time, I have a long commute and he works shifts. I adore being a Mum and know deep down I would love another (even thought my son had horrific reflux so likelihood is the second would to!) but I just don't see how a second would fit in in terms of childcare. Has anyone else had the same dilemma and did you regret having or not having another child? Sorry for the waffle and thanks for reading!

Yes, I was the same. However, once my son got past five things improved generally and I felt good. Decided not to rock the boat, my husband didn't care one way or the other.

Now I am very glad I had no more children. It was the right decision for us but it's something about which only you can decide.

I doubt you will ever regret having a second child. It may be tricky at times but you'll surely never regret it.

You know when you've had enough. And I didn't know that until I heard that sentence.

Yes regret is the wrong word, I suppose just found it incredibly difficult is what I mean, financially and logistically, logistically mainly.

I understand. Also understand what you mean. But I strongly believe you live to your means and if things are tight, just pull on the reins. The last time i bought clothes for myself that weren't in the sales.... last Christmas.....but, the kids have everything they need. And more- you just adjust. However if you really don't want to give up things you would consider luxuries- or perhaps just items which you simply love, and have one child then keep your status quo. You'll know where your own balance is. For me, I've given up my Clinique facial care, leg waxes and having my hair professionally coloured because I really wanted 3 children. Each to their own- this isn't meant to sound judgy and I fear it does, but what I mean is if you think of yourself in 2, 5 or 10 years time, how many kids do you see yourself with and would you sacrifice anything to have more?

Ps I would totally disagree with your reflux comment- my dc 2 had it for 5 months but neither dc1 or dc3 did at all. Each one is completely different- don't let that taint your view.