DS always screaming

[DinosaurPoop]

Well, I say always, I mean always at certain times. So at the moment the main times are nursery drop off and bedtime/naptime.

Nursery are great and will just take him straight of us and try and distract him and he does calm down very quickly but it's the initial crying and calling my name I cannot bare sometimes we make it to the door before he even starts to whine, sometimes it's as we pull into the road nursery is on.

And bedime/nap time unless he is knocked out cold, he is up straight out of bed at the door screaming after me, I return to bed straight away and repeat every time, and maybe every 3 times says it's bed/nap time, time to stay in bed etc. Again he does stop and calm down fairly quickly and lies down and goes to sleep but it's EVERY night and it's wearing thin now.

He's been doing this for ages now and I just want to know that there is an end in sight or any tips I can do to help the situation.

How old is he?

My lad has been going to nursery a while now and there have been times when during the dropping off he was crying and looking back at me and it broke my heart every single time I did it and it would ruin my day but as I'm sure others will say he did grow out of it and now he's the happiest lad in there.

I saw things from a different angle a few weeks ago. A mum I don't really know was going through the same that I did and her little lad cried real tears this particular day ( and others so I'm told) and she would leave in tears too but literally the MINUTE she was gone he stopped. It was like he was the happiest kid once she was gone and the nursery teacher explained that so many kids do this.

Please don't fret that your child is going through this, I'm pretty sure it's more traumatic for you than it is them.

Sorry I forgot to say that - he is 2.

Nursery is still fairly new for him so I kind of expect it for a while yet to be honest, but he's been going to the crèche at the gym for months and he still does it when I drop him there and that's only ever for a maximum of 2 hours. Always the same staff and kids there too so it's not cos it's always different people or anything.

I know he is exactly like that Witzend, I've looked through the window on the way out to the car literally minutes later and I can see him playing or sitting down for breakfast happily, but I just hate it when he's clinging onto me as hard as he can with them trying to drag him off me and has full on snot and tears streaming down his face!

I will also add - I always make sure he knows I am coming back, by saying I'll see you later, mommy is going to work, we will go to x or we will do y when I pick you up, and at bed time I'll see you in the morning etc. Makes no difference at all.

My son is going through a stage when he doesn't like to be left alone at bedtime so I sit on a bean bag next to his bed until he falls asleep. I tell him that unless he keeps still and closes his eyes and try's to sleep I'll leave his room and sometimes I do just that but I always come back. It's now the case that he falls asleep within 10 mins or so of going to bed and actually stays asleep for longer. Sometimes I have to sit next to him after he wakes during the night but if he gets comfort from that I'm happy plus it means that my wife can get more sleep in our room. I think your lad just misses his mum when you're not there so build the trust that you'll always be there by trying what I've said. My lads happier as a result, sleeping better and happier at bedtime.

I get where you're coming from I just don't want to sit next to his bed all night waiting for him to fall asleep, I do if he hasn't napped cos sometimes he can't even make it to the end of the book! But he does lie down and go to sleep I'd say after 5-10 mins maximum of getting out of bed and crying at the door, I go in every time he gets out of bed, lead him back to bed, sometimes give a kiss and cuddle if he is very wound up, and tuck him back in, he never wakes in the night so that's not really an issue and he sleeps until 6.30 so again no issue there either. He used to do it all the time also, would just lie down happily and go to sleep at naptime and bedtime but seems he's got some sort of anxiety from somewhere.

That change is a combination of his self awareness and his cognitive development. He's only two and littleuns go through separation anxiety at that time as they start be more aware of their emotions but still don't know how to express it without crying.

Everyone is different but my lad would be up and out of bed crying at the door, calling out and I got fed up going up and down the stairs so decided to sit with him. I actually quite like it as it's a peaceful time for me and him.

Like you say it's only for 10 mins max so it's not like you're giving up your evening and once he's down he's down. It's just something that's worked for me that's worth considering