To much for a birthday party

[MaNeOi]

I have four sons 9,7,5,5 the oldest two have birthdays that are 12 days apart - my husband has said that he will take them and 4 friends each (along with a selection of dads) to a 'bunk house' (a barn in the woods) and do zip lining and rock climbing the next day. I quickly said it sounded like a great idea and sent him on his way to sort it out.

I had already organised a Go Carting party for them both the weekend before, which I've paid for and invited quite a lot of kids to. Another Mum asked why I was doing so much for the birthdays and if I wasn't getting the kids presents as I was spending so much.

I feel this comment is a bit ridiculous - but curious do you think this is to much for a birthday party for two kids?

Yes. Excessive.

I don’t think it is excessive if that’s what you do, especially if you go more for experiences over things.

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2 kids, 2 parties. Don't see that as excessive at all. They are lovely ideas.

DS has a birthday in the summer holidays so nearly always has to have his party at some point when his friends aren't on holiday. So on his actual birthday we have a nice day out, go and see a show or something. But we all enjoy it and as long as we can afford it it's not doing anyone any harm is it?

It's just jealously. If you have the money why not!

I think I’ve misunderstood. I thought you were having two joint parties and inviting the same kids to each. Which is why I thought it was excessive. But do you mean two separate parties?

Fine if it's a party for each dc and their own friends but a bit excessive if both sets of friends go to both parties, I think.

A bit unusual but I guess rather than having two separate parties, as most people would do, you’re doing 2 joint ones. It’s not necessary as they could just share the 1 but most of the stuff people do for parties doesn’t exactly fall into the necessary category. Ignore the Mum, you don’t need to explain yourself but should you want to then say it’s a party per child and they decided to share each party with each other as they get on so well.

To answer the question its two parties for both boys. The 8 kids going to the camping are the kids of my husbands best friends and there dads are going also.

The 8 kids going to camp out are also going to the go carting in addition to there siblings the boys school friends, and my younger kids.

We have given them the option to have separate parties but they get on so well and have so many mutual friends they don't care longs if there is a separate cake!