My DDs are 6 and 8. They are generally lovely, happy, kind kids and everyone else (teachers, friends’ parents, GPs) seems to find them very easy to manage.
When we have no chores or time pressures we have a great time and get on brilliantly. But I spend all the rest of my time shouting and nagging them to do stuff. They seem to think that going to bed, getting up, getting dressed, brushing teeth, coming down for breakfast etc are all a huge hassle and a giant favour to me and can only be done after I have nagged them about 10 times.
Anything extra like helping with chores requires shouting and threats or a promise of pocket money.
I don’t know how it has got so bad. I don’t want to shout and nag all the time. I want them to do jobs around the house without threats or monetary reward. It’s getting me down. I feel like a failure especially as they are so lovely for everyone else.
The only think I can think of is to limit screen time completely as this seems to be the cause of the problems. But it seems ridiculous to reward them for getting dressed or cleaning their teeth.
Any advice would be appreciated.