Help with kids dad (ex)

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I need some advise regarding my ex. We broke up just over a year ago because we just couldn't get on. He can be a bully and I can't be bullied so it was a hard relationship. We have two kids together.
He now lives an hour and half away. He has them two weeks on one off which is great. However he doesn't drive. So I take them every sat and his mum brings them back on the sun. He pays no petrol money towards my 3 hr round trip.
I'm still constantly getting abuse from him. He claims I have every weekend off when in actual fact I get 3 nights a month. But I'm luckier then some so I ignore him.
My car has a problem and has to get fixed at the weekend. It is the first time I've ever asked him to come get the kids and he's gone mental.
Calling me alsorts of names. Saying I'm a terrible mother for allowing my children on public transport.
I'm constantly getting this form of abuse from him and i just want to rip my hair out. How can I still be made to cry by this horrible person. I try to stand up for myself but the abuse just gets worse and I don't know what to do anymore

Have you been in contact with a lawyer?
It may help to send him an official letter stating the only contact should be regard the dc and any name calling etc will not be tolerated.
Did he move away at the end of the relationship or you?
If he moved away it is up to him to deal with transport in the dc and I would also have this clarified by a lawyer in a letter

He moved away after the break up. I had no problem taking them there. It would be nice to get some help with petrol but I've always just wanted the kids to see there dad.
But the abuse I receive is just overwhelming.
Would a lawyer not just make him worse towards me

It could go either way.
Sometimes the shock that you have got an official person involved is enough to see you have got your confidence back and expect to be treated fairly. He may then work with you.
Or he may continue his abusive behaviour. (Usually the latter with abusive people) But if he does you will have proof in legal documents.
It wouldn't hurt to go to a lawyer and ask for advice and what they would suggest.
That the method I chose, we ended up at court and ex showed his true colours there.
We now have an order he tries to stick to it (that's another story) but it is expressed he collects from a certain public place and drops off etc. It outlines everything.
Also I have a old phone and ex only has the number for it. It is with me the night before visits and when dc is away. The rest if the time I leave it in the house and check once a week. It reduces the chances of unneeded stress etc