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Separation anxiety at 4 months old

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lizzyttc2017 · 13/09/2018 12:28

My 4 month only has recently started showing some signs of separation anxiety (crying if somebody other than me and her dad hold her or carry her around). I'm back working a couple of days a week as a baby photographer in my home studio and today my mum looked after her for an hour while I did a shoot. I could hear her absolutely hysterically crying and screaming for the second half of the time I was gone. My mum said it started once she picked her up to put her on her playmat. I'm not sure if this is related but this seemed to all start the day I was unwell in bed and my partner looked after her for the day. He took her to his mums while I slept and when he came home said every time his mum held her she cried and since then it's been happening occasionally. She's also fine and full of smiles when people just talk to her but don't pick her up and carry her away. She is usually fine with her daddy other than last week she did the hysterical screaming with her dad for about an hour when she woke one night and I was out for dinner with friends.

Sorry for the essay, just wanted to cover everything to see if anybody had any ideas as to why this is happening or how I can help her with this as she will need to be looked after by my Mum so I can work for a couple hours a week and it's not nice to see her upset when family members hold her :/

Thanks!

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Pamdoo · 13/09/2018 12:34

I think its a developmental stage, as mine is 4 months and has suddenly started crying everytime my husband smiles at him Grin and will only settle with me where as last week he was all smiles for daddy. He now puts his arms towards me if daddy is holding him and cries. I believe it will pass! Download the wonder weeks app if you haven't seen it it explains a lot.

lizzyttc2017 · 13/09/2018 17:10

@Pamdoo oh hopefully a phase then! I do have the wonder weeks app :) will look into leap 4 a bit more

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Cosmoa · 14/09/2018 08:24

Hiya, yes it's just a developmental leap.. One of the biggest ones yet. My DD is going through the same now (4 months in a couple of days). It might help you to download the `wonder weeks' app as it will give you a heads up about all their leaps and what is happening and how you can maybe help. I love it!

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Cosmoa · 14/09/2018 08:25

Sorry didn't realise someone above already suggested the app!

lizzyttc2017 · 15/09/2018 19:32

Argh, today I we went to the in laws for dinner with my brother in law and his partner and she was SO distressed when people tried to hold her, screamed her head off (vaccination jabs style cry 😅) until she was back with me or her Daddy. I don't know what to do! Not only is it upsetting because people just want to cuddle her and she needs to be looked after when I do photoshoots but it's also heartbreaking to see her in such distress. Somebody tell me there is hope of this being a phase? I feel so upset that she's been crying so much this afternoon :(

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lizzyttc2017 · 15/09/2018 19:33

By phase I mean one that won't last very long 😂

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