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lavender1 · 22/08/2004 20:57

my ds has a friend who he practically spends every waking hour with if not at school, and to top it all I get on really well with his mother, I can talk to her more than anyone else on the estate that I live on..he is a real live wire and I never object to having him for dinner or playing with ds, ever.....only that there has been a slight problem tonight which I wondered about.....thye have a third friend who is a lovely boy and he also stayed for bbq tonight.....I have since discovered that ds's friend had been laughing at friend, so much so that he had red eyes.....I asked friend if he had been crying and he said yes and he was embarassed about it.....it turns out that friend had to do a number 2 but was too far away from home or our house to be able to use proper toilet and so used bushes..(.it is a normal perfunctionary thing imho)....so he used the bushes.......when I asked why he had been crying I later discovered that ds's friend had been taking the mickey...I am sorry but even at 9 years old this kind of thing really gets my goat as I was never like this as a child and think would have been seriously disciplined for this.....my ds said that his friend thinks that he doesn't like this boy when infact he does (he's been round to ours for tea on his own before)...

Have talked to dh about it and he said best not to say anything to his mother but ds shoudn't see friend for a couple of days.....this boy and my son are inseparable and the thought of saying you can't play here for at least a day without explanation seems a bit weird....on the same note I hate people who laugh at people and I think that they need to not do this (seeing this boys red face really makes me feel sad for him)....any suggestions about this....and btw my osn's friend also said that he had big teeth and doesn't like this boy as when the boy came to his house he played on playstation too much (well surely get him off it if it's too much) sorry long and thanks for reading this far if you have

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phatcat · 22/08/2004 21:29

I think I'd be tempted to let all 3 boys handle things for themselves, but would try and encourage your son to let his friend know that he does like the other boy and wants to be friends with both of them. I wonder your son's friend is a bit jealous, and realises that your son likes the other boy but is trying to elbow him out of the way.

I can't see that anything constructive would come from not letting your son see his friend for a couple of days and also I think I would mention it to the other friends mum - just along the lines of he was a bit upset at yours, you asked him why and turns out he'd been teased for needing a poo.

lavender1 · 22/08/2004 21:39

thanks phatcat, that is very helpful

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