Someone give me strength to tell him to Foff

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Me and babys dad split up shortly after she was born dd is now 6 months old.
Our split was for a mixture of reasons but a really nasty side of him appeared when we did saying I'm lazy and making me feel like I was a bad mum and demanding I should get rid of my dog ( this and a mixture of other things)
Fast forward to now and he's saying he wants us to be a family when I dont reply to this this due to all the horrible stuff that has been said and done since dd was born he then texts with how disgusting I am choosing a dog over him and dd will know.
If we didn't have a baby I would seriously just tell him where to go but I'm finding it so hard to be like that with him and I'm not sure why, think part of me is scared he will try take her and not bring her back that I'm so scared to rock the boat but the amount of emotional abuse is just becoming a joke now. He threatens me with court saying they'd give 50/50 custody and this terrifies me. Please can somebody give me some advice how best to deal with this situation, I know I'm being treated like a mug but I'm just scared he may be right and I won't get custody of dd

I'd choose a dog over him too! You need advice from a solicitor, you need to set up an email address for communication between you both purely to discuss dd, you can block him on your phone.

You could try mediation if you think he is mature enough to listen, the court will probably recommend this first before you take him to court to arrange contact.

I'll have a look for the website I used for advice.

Stay strong

Two links, one for you www.yourtango.com/2016296601/what-its-really-be-emotionally-abusive-relationship-every-single-day

And one about contact with dd www.yourtango.com/2016296601/what-its-really-be-emotionally-abusive-relationship-every-single-day

www.gingerbread.org.uk/information/contact-arrangements/

Dogs are loving, loyal and faithful and they don't emotionally abuse you. I seriously doubt whether he'll bother going to court over the baby. He just knows how to press your buttons! He wouldn't get 50/50 residence anyway. The DC isn't a parcel to be passed backwards and forwards.

Thank you I'll have a look at them.

I know it's unlikely he'll get residence he just says things that terrify me making me think it's very possible so scares me into taking any kind of action.
She's still BF and ex also struggles to get her asleep so I've only let him take her for 3 hours as she's then due to be fed and overdue a nap. He thinks this is unreasonable and wants her all day, surely that's not in babys interests if he can't feed or get her to sleep? I have said he can come over and see her whenever so think I could not be seen as being unreasonable could I?

@Singlenotsingle why wouldn't he get 50/50 residence? It's perfectly normal for fathers to be awarded 50/50 custody if their circumstances allow it...I've been through this first hand and there was nothing more irritating than people telling me this kind of nonsense....we no longer live in a world where the mum "just gets custody"

Op if you and dd's father stay separated and you do end up with 50/50 I can honestly tell you it is heartbreaking and it is hard, but you adjust and you learn to live with it despite how horrible it is

With his job he couldn't even committ to a day in the week never mind 50/50 so I do know this is very unlikely.
I know things are different now though that's why I get scared. Surely though a 6 month old that has only lived me since 4 weeks old, her best interests surely would be seen as with me wouldn't they?

A solicitor cam answer your questions better I feel. Check out family law websites, there are some that offer you free advice.