To have another child?

[MaNeOi]

I currently have four sons (ages 9,7 and twins 5).

Now they're all settled in school, I want another one - my husband isn't against the idea but has said that he think if we have one more we'd actually have to have two because of the age gaps to my other kids, so they'd have a sibling close in age.

I am wondering if anyone thinks 5/6 children is to many? And just opinions on the general situation.

If I was in your position - financially sound and had a big enough place to accommodate 6 kids, I’d do it in a heartbeat.

I’d love loads of kids, but for me circumstances means 3 is my limit (I’m currently pregnant with my 3rd and have a 7 and 11 YO)

But ultimately, the decision lies with you and your husband. If you feel you could cope then why not go for it?

Yeah, why not!! Sounds like you would really like to, and have no reason not to...!

I felt like that about having my 3rd one - like there wasn't any 'need' to have another one but I knew we could provide for one and I knew I didn't 'not want' one. Now I'm pregnant with no. 4, feeling the same way again, but also thinking, how much difference will it actually make anyway?

I think my only reservation is being able to participate enough with my older ones while they're still young enough to need/want my attention... I sometimes feel apologetic for the older 2 that whenever I do anything with them or go to watch them at sports games/ school things etc, I always seem to be partly distracted from what they're doing by having a baby and/or a toddler on my hip. But I think I mind more than they do (they all get on well/take each others' presence for granted) and the smaller ones thrive on it.

So, with the circumstances you describe, I think, if that's what you'd like to do, why not...

@Goostacean Go for the five! As strange as it sounds with the twins being number 3 and 4 we didn't find having two newborns as much of a shock as we expected, although now they're five whenever we haven't heard them for a while we know there is carnage going on somewhere!

Thank you for the support everyone!

Op I have 11, not too many for me personally just as however many you have is right for you!!

Tempted to...! The problem for me is my work, and what feels like a lot of subconscious family pressure to give up my job (which I will not even consider doing). Not sure how I could work FT with five...?!

For various longwinded reasons I won’t be trying for #2 for at least two years, so we’ll see how things pan out...!

@Aprilshowers I’ve seen you on a few threads recently- wow, 11! This is me taking my hat 🎩 off to you!!!