Potty training or weaning!!!

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Hi ladies I've posted before about the struggles I'm have no with my dd. She's 2.5 and as my title suggests I'm trying to potty train.
It's not going very well
She does understand what the potty is for, I actually get a round of applause when she sees me on the toilet , but she is peeing on the floor almost all the time.
She has occasionally done both pees and poos in the potty but very few times.

Also she is still breastfed at night and before her afternoon nap.
And she co sleeps, I'd like to stop this so I'm wondering what first?
She goes to nursery twice a week where she sleeps obviously without being fed but she is absolutely boob addicted and I have absolute screaming meltdowns when I withhold.

It is starting to get me down now and I'm feeling like a really crap mum, I also am single so no help at all through the nights.

What am I going to do??

You're absolutely not a crap Mum. I know how hard co sleeping and bf a toddler is!

My advice is, leave the potty training for now. It's still early days.

I weaned ds1 from bf and co sleeping at 2.10. We did it by changing his routine and using the dummy when he woke.

Eg, instead of falling asleep on the boob, we did a sippy cup and a story in bed.

Then after a few weeks we dropped the morning feed by simply getting up when he woke. Was hard for a few days then fine.

We then tackled the night time ones by simply replacing the dummy.

Throughout this we continued co sleeping to keep the reassurance etc.

We then moved him into his own newly decorated bedroom at 3 and he's been an amazing sleeper since. Hes now 6 and best sleeper.

Have you had a look at Dr Jay Gordon’s night Weaning method? I’d leave the potty training too. She doesn’t sound ready yet and there’s no point trying to force it

Thank you. I'm going to take the bars of the cot tomorrow and have her in her big girl bed! Let's see what happens!

I think you might find it easier to continue co-sleeping until weaning is done, as cuddles etc will be needed.

Jay Gordon method actually doesn't seem very gentle or kind having read it this week.

Maybe have a read of this:

sarahockwell-smith.com/2014/08/10/how-to-gently-night-wean-a-breastfed-baby-or-toddler/

And yes, she doesn't sound ready for potty training yet

Breastfeeding older babies and beyond Facebook group has lots of resources on weaning older ones. The and yes leave the potty training. When she is ready it will click.

Thank you I'll happily get in her bed or vice verse if she wakes, I just have a feeling she'll sleep better if I'm not right next to her, we seem to disturb each other.

I'll leave the potty training for a while, it's a bit disappointing loads of kids her age seem to be out of nappies and she is so very bright I thought she'd get it really quickly.

Firstly you're not a crap mum and secondly please don't worry about what everyone else is doing (half the time they're talking b*llcks anyway). I'd say one step at a time. Don't rush potty training. If she's shows no interest, leave it. Stopping bf -ing and moving out of cot are both big steps. Can you do one before the other? Good luck. X

Well she's in my bed so into her own bed I think, that may naturally help cut down bf.
it's all through the night some nights and it's sending me crazy!!
Her bed is still in my room.

Yes you're probably right, most people do tend to embellish when it comes to parenting!!