so do i really have to go and read endless books on how to introduce a second child into the family, or can you lot tell me all i need to know?

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i'm guessing i have to include ds (2) a lot

and refer to the new baby as "his brotehr" etc

any other must-dos (or musn't-dos)?

I never really prepared dd as such either. When ds came along she was actually by chance in a very mumsy with her dolls phase so she loved doing things with ds. I did do sily things like if ds was rying say to him now A.. your big sister is trying to concentrate shh now. And things like that, he obviously had no idea what ai was wittering on about but dd didn't feel she was the only one ever asked to stop doing things and he wasn't.

DD has always loved her brother depite other being scepticle. Yes she obviously got frustrated by him at time but has honestly never resented him as we have always tried our best to even out our time a much as possible between them.

Now ds is over a year and a bit more mobile he does bug her sometimes because he wants to be with her ALL the time and she gets no peace from him clambering all over her but she does spend a lot of time playing with him and is forever "lending" him toys and things because sharing is nice.
In fact she keeps saying we are not to have a new baby because she wants to kep the one we have.