I feel like im drowning...

[emilyjayne5]

So I have a nearly 3 year old and a 1 and a half year old and I'm losing the plot. I feel like I'm constantly shouting or telling them off for doing things kids do! I'm just so angry/ irritable all the time! And then I get upset for shouting at them. It's a endless cycle! I have NO support from "friends" and my family doesn't live close so I can't just nip in or anything! My other half is the most unsympathetic person ever! He thinks because he works all day that everything is my problem and I have to deal with everything! Plus he doesnt help with the kids at all! Again I have to deal with everything! I feel like I'm drowning in mummy duties and I've lost myself. I've tried talking to my mum and other half and friends but it's always the same, they think theyve got it worse then me because I "sit at home all day". I really need some advice or just someone to have a moan with or anything!

Your DH is an arse.

Is he an arse over everything or just stuff about ^your^ children??

Honestly I'm not surprised you're struggling, you're solo parenting but picking up after and putting up with a useless partner too.

Can you get up tomorrow, announce you need to pop out and leave the kids behind?

Can you put them in childcare even for just a few hours a week?

No he's doesn't do anything! If I asked him to say wash the pots his response would be ' you do it better/quicker then me' 🙄
My nearly 3 year old does go to nursery 2 mornings (3 hours) a week but since it's been the 6 week holiday she's only just gone back on Thursday.
I couldn't even imagine just getting up and going out without them, I would definitely pay for it with my other half, he would go mental! (He stays in bed on a weekend because he starts work early in the weekdays!)

I think you need to seriously consider if you'd be better off alone. If you will pay foot leaving your children with their Dad something is wrong in h he relationship

I really sympathise OP. My two have driven me crazy today, similar ages. Can you go back to work part time and arrange childcare? Mine go 2 days a week and work saves my sanity. In fact i’m considering upping my days because i shout at them so much at home that i feel they would be better off in nursery than with me!

I bet your shattered and need a break! These school holidays nearly finished me off!

However - your dp is a total arse and you need to stand up to him or get rid! My dh works long hours running our buisness but he still gets involved with the kids.

What do you mean you would ‘pay for it’?

I have recently got a job but the hours at evenings to nights so im going to looking for after the kids during the day and working at night! So my other half is going to have to step up to do bedtime and sort his own dinner out (which he's not too impressed about!!) Id pay for it in the way that I'd had to put up with a man child and he's be nasty towards me and fall out with me! It wouldn't be worth the hassel I'd get 😂

Sweetie that isn't a healthy relationship