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My partner lied to me

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Emz2019 · 02/09/2018 21:19

We have recently had our first baby he’s almost 2 months old. Things have been great and I have not noticed any problems in our relationship. Today he went to the shops and when he got home he sat in the bathroom for around 30 mins... he often sits in there a while and plays on his phone while on the toilet so I thought nothin of it, then when he came out of the bathroom he had decided he was suddenly going to his dads house. I said that was fine and I’d see him later. After he left a felt something uneasy and checked his location, he was in the town centre.... around 5 miles from his dads house and in the complete opposite direction from our house. So I rang him 3 times and he ignored me. He then rang me back and I says where are you he said at my dads but he’s not in so I may go to town for a look around as it’s his little brothers birthday next week. I said tell me honestly and this is your last chance. He said ok I’m in town already, I said you never went to your dads though did you. He told me he hadn’t and had went straight to town. I asked why the sudden urgency to go to town after hiding in the bathroom for half an hour? He said he just needed to get out and has been feeling depressed. I’m not sure and feel like something else went on. He’s promised me it hasn’t. Are my crazy hormones playing up or would you be mad too?

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pacempercutiens · 02/09/2018 21:31

I would be mad too. That's outright deceit and in an honest relationship I'd expect my DP to tell me the truth, and just tell me he wanted to go around town for a break

bourbonbiccy · 02/09/2018 21:41

It's daunting, overwhelming , scary and lots more emotions for both parents. He definitely shouldn't have lied but I would give him an opportunity to discuss his feelings with you. I think the adjustment period can be difficult but he needs to know lying is not ok, and if he needs to get out, he needs to tell you straight and talk about his feelings. Or do you mean you think someone more sinister is going on?

Emz2019 · 03/09/2018 06:23

Well my first thought was something more sinister. He has sworn to me it’s not and he’s just feeling a bit trapped and depressed and was going to his dads but changed his mind when he got in the car. But it was all so odd with him being in the bathroom for 30mins first then just taking off

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