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Preschool swim lessons about to start - do I cancel?

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Haypanky · 02/09/2018 11:12

Hi all, I'm really not sure which way to go with this. Dd is 4 next month. She's due to start Preschool swimming lessons on Friday. She will be with a small group of friends, with two instructors. No parents in the pool. Dd's got very low water confidence. We've taken her swimming sporadically her whole life, including a few courses of lessons when she was younger. In the build up to the preschool lessons I've taken her swimming every weekend all summer. She's got a bit better, but won't really let go of me. I struggle to persuade her to let go of my neck. She will hold onto a noodle or ball to play but nearly always has one or two limbs hanging onto me. It's amazing how she can twist a foot around me! The best she's ever done is when we bump into a friend at the pool, when she'll let go of me and do some independent doggy paddle with her noodle under her arms. Height wise she can't touch the bottom of the pool.

So do I carry on with lessons and hope she copies her friends, her instructors give her more confidence, and that she's actually better without me there?

Or do I risk putting her off?

Do I cancel and take her swimming more myself for now and just focus on having fun in the water?

Outside of the pool she talks about swimming all the time and cries to stay when we get out of the pool. But she's only just twigged that I won't be in the pool with her during her lessons and was upset.

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sleepismysuperpower · 02/09/2018 11:16

perhaps you could ask for a trial lesson or 2 to see how she is? that way you can decide whether it is worth carrying on or not. you may find that she grows in confidence slowly, as she realises that although you aren't in the pool, her friends are and she can have fun with them. all the best x

SparkyBlue · 02/09/2018 11:16

My five year old DD is the very same. I am tempted to sign her up for lessons but I am worried that she will get a fright and be put off the water as I have spent the summer trying to build up her water confidence and she is really enjoying playing about in the pool. She used to be terrified. Sorry I have no advice but I totally understand

Whatsthisbear · 02/09/2018 11:31

do I carry on with lessons and hope she copies her friends, her instructors give her more confidence, and that she's actually better without me there?

I think this tbh and the instructors will have loads of experience of dealing with nervous learners, she will probably come out of the pool really pleased with herself.

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museumum · 02/09/2018 11:33

In my ds lesson at that age another wee boy spent most of the lesson on the teachers back in a piggy back for the first three lessons. He loves it now.

Haypanky · 02/09/2018 15:04

Thanks for the advice so far. I'm going to ring the instructor tomorrow and try to get a feel.

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standbyyourmammaryglands · 02/09/2018 15:06

Retired swimming teacher here!

Take her and hide so where she can’t see you. Tell the instructors she is super nervous and if they are any good they will deal with her appropriately. Also tell them where your hiding incase they need you!

ARyan · 02/09/2018 22:44

I was a swimming teacher for a number for year too. Taught everyone from babies up!

Generally kids do better without the parents there. I used to hate it when parents hovered because their nerves and anxieties rubbed off on the kids or they played up in front of mummy and daddy. No matter what age. Better they don't see you and you can hopefully watch from afar (is there at viewing window for instance?) And then you can make a fuss afterwards when, if there is time, the teacher can show you what they achieved that day. "You put your chin in the water? That's awesome!" Etc. After the first few lessons hopefully she will forget entirely that you won't be in the water with her. She'll be able to learn from watching the others in her class too.

A good teacher will spend time gaining your wee ones confidence so that while they might cling to them during the first few lessons (if the teacher is in the water) they then trust the instructor and try new things. It takes time and she might have setbacks (water going up her nose and giving her a fright for example) but it'll be worth it in the long run! Better to start them early!

Good luck!

Haypanky · 08/09/2018 21:35

So sometimes it's nice to hear what happened!!! We went, and dd was amazing!!!! She was scared, but the teachers were great and got her in so quickly she kind of didn't have a chance to back out. She cried for a few mins but they distracted her, and she did everything! I was honestly so proud of her I could have cried. So thanks for the advice that we should go!

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ARyan · 09/09/2018 02:14

Fantastic news! Very pleased for you both!

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