Newborn sleep

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I know it's normal but looking for what others did.

So lo is now 3 days old and come nighttime just wants to be held. If put down in crib cries, falls asleep straight away when lifted.
When did you start being able to put baby down at night and actually get some sleep.
I can't sleep during the day as have older child to look after. (can't remember how long this lasted last time).

Baby is breastfed if that matters.

So exhausted when can I start to see baby sleeping in crib for periods before waking for feed and going back down

Mine is 7m and I’m still waiting for that to happen. He’s basically Velcro Baby

How do you sleep at night?

I think it was a couple of weeks with DD (just don’t ask about DS...).

Have you got a DH who could hold LO for some part of the night or get up with the older DC in the morning and let you get some sleep? Have you got the safe bed-sharing info too OP?

Things that might help are gently laying a hand on LO’s tummy when they stir in the crib. Swaddling. White noise and using a t-shirt DH has worn as the sheet, the stinkier the better. The No Cry Sleep Solution for Newborns is supposed to be very good too OP.

Congratulations on your lovely new addition

Co slept until 3 months then I bought a sleepyhead!

I have a sleepyhead, swaddling, white noise, trying the hand on tummy.
Even tonight tried co sleeping lo lasted around 20mins then screamed to be held.

Dh has been brilliant help, yesterday he got up at 4am took lo down stairs to give me a rest.

So tired and miss my older child I feel like I'm barely there

Congratulations on your new baby. It took a few weeks to get to bigger chunks (3 hours) I think, at 9 days old I started bed sharing and that helped massively. We tried lots of things - white noise, sleepyhead, hot water bottle to warm the crib between feeds, swaddling, a twinkly light show thing, complete darkness. In the end she started sleeping longer in our bed, then in her crib and now, at 8 months, in her cot in her own room (and mostly she sleeps through so it does happen, you'll get there, it's just rubbish in the mean time.)

Really don’t worry about your older DC Fartoo. They will be absolutely fine. This is a very brief period in their lives and will be soon forgotten

I can relate t what you’re saying. My DD is 15 weeks and still wants to be held constantly, although I am seeing signs of improvement. The only way I coped is co sleeping, wearing my baby and just embracing the naps in the day where she would just be held. I too have an older child and felt so guilty but as somebody has already said, they don’t seem bothered at all! And it won’t be for long..... good luck xx

Co-sleep... baby falls asleep at breast.

Am gently trying to get her into her next to me and sleepy head by putting her down in it when she’s calm and sleepy (small window tbh)

Honestly I know she should go in her own cot but I like co-sleeping and don’t care if we do it til she’s 5.

Some babies just like to be held. Can you get as many pillows around you as poss? Friend has son like this and has slept with him on her chest since day 3, he’s now 3mos.

Good luck OP

Mine wouldn't untill my proper milk came in at ten days.
He got a lot better then but still won't go to sleep unless on me and then is transferred to his cot/pram

I co-slept from day one with my DCs. I breastfed them back to sleep every time they stirred - before they actually woke up. I would just wake up briefly when I became aware of them moving and we'd both fall back asleep while the baby was being fed.. None of mine ever got to the point of crying at night so I got a full night's sleep every night. Co-sleeping doesn't work for everyone but it suited us. You can google how to do it safely.