Worrying about leaving baby when returning to work

[AnxietyForever]

Hi, really in need of some re assurance as it's all I can think of at the moment.
My DS is almost 7months old and I'm due back to work at the end of October.
He will be with my mum for 2 days a week. However he's a VERY clingy baby, he's only content when at home around me and his dad. I see my mum twice a week and visit other family regularly but he just doesn't like being held etc by anyone.
When he's being held by someone else he's hysterical and now the time is coming closer to returning to work in just so worried about how he will be.
Any advice?

I was also thinking about taking an additional 3 months off but we just cannot afford it at all, anyone been through similar?

I'll be going through similar next week, I'm back at work on the 10th DS will be in nursery full time (until I go part time as of October 1st). He's an ultra clingy baby too.

Any possibility of you or your DH going part time at all? Though he may surprise you! DS has been pretty good for his settling sessions so far. Do you ever leave him alone with your DM?

Oh, and DS is just under 9 months.

No I've never left him alone with my DM as of yet but it does seem like a good idea as he will have chance to settle a little, I've never left him because he is so clingy so will definitely do this in the coming days, it's so hard isn't it

It’s very hard. I’ve been back at work three months now. Never known tiredness like it, worse than the newborn stage. Anyway, I find that DS is much worse and clingy when I’m in the room. I know it’s hard but try leaving for an hour and I hope you will find that your little one settles after a few mins. This is how it’s been for us with nursery and grandparent care x

@AnxietyForever you need to start leaving him for periods of time to help get him used to it. Especially with your mum if she is going to be having him for 2 days a week. I'm suprised she is happy to do it with no practise looking after him by herself. My mum will be having my LO whrn i go back to work, but she has looked after her for whole days and overnight on her own throughout my maternity leave.

I have als left my LO with friends to look after when i have gone into work for KIT days.
My LO will also be going to nursery the rest of the week so have settling in days arranged.

@Lazypuppy
Is you LO quite sociable? If so it's perfect for you. My son is very clingy and does not seem to like other people AT ALL.
I have plenty of experience- an older DC who my mum looked after and still does All the time, but my youngest is just complete opposite so it's not easy to just leave him when he's not happy. It's not fair

@AnxietyForever no she's not overly sociable, she will cry if i'm there but someone else is holding her sometimes.

I've made sure to leave her with different people to prepare her for when i go back to work. She's not always happy,bit i know she settles once i've gone and is well looked after.

I really would start leaving him with your mum. It's not fair to throw him and her straight into it in October with no preparation! They may surprise you. DS certainly has with me, he's not overly social, but he's settling at nursery very well (as another poster has said, he only seems to be clingy when I'm in the room! Hopefully it'll be the same for you).

I just think maybe start leaving him half an hour, then build up. He'll be far more upset at being left for a full day all of a sudden, which will only make you more upset.

Yes I'm definitely going to start leaving his for little periods of time this week

I'm back at work for 2 days a week in 3 weeks time. DD (8 months) will be going to my MIL's on those days.

So to prepare DD for the transition, she'll be going to MIL's next week for a few days.

I hate that I can't be home with her, but I can't afford to take any unpaid time off. 🙁