Pnd and relationship

[Spanglyprincess1]

So I've posted a few times and I'm.struggling - baby is nine weeks old. My HV from talking and doing some basic stuff thinks I may have pnd. Spoke to gp and they agree and have referred me to CBT as it worked 6 years ago when I had a spout of bad depression.
I love my partner but I seem to be yo-yoing from loving to loathing him within minutes or hours. I feel mean and not sure if I'm being very unreasonable with him due to my head at the momment.
Hes helping but also not with baby. Eg I told him what hv had said when I saw he and he took baby from my arms to say hello to him - his reaction was to grab brush my boobs while he was holding baby saying to cheer me up ( he apologised after and said it was a joke).
He does change nappies etc and do some clothes washing but leaves most of baby stuff/house cleaning to me. I've asked him to help more and he says I just need to tell him what to do and then keep reminding him or he will forget . I don't really have the energy for this tbh as I'm.trying to focus on baby. He is also doing nice things like taking us for lunch yesterday and holding baby so I can eat my lunch while it's hot. I've forgot to go to.the doctor today which isn't like me as normally I'm organised.

Is this just a normal thing with pnd to impact on how you perceive relationship?

I think depression, of any kind, will affect your relationships OP. Tell him you haven’t got the energy to keep reminding him. Either come up with a plan together of what he’ll do and write it down and stick it somewhere obvious or ask him what you want to do and make sure he writes it down and takes responsibility.

Would getting a cleaner for a few weeks help you out too, if finances allow?

I relate to this post a lot OP. I also have PND and have just finished my 6 weeks of CBT, its helped A LOT so I hope it helps you too.

With regards to your relationship - you need to sit down and have a proper talk with your partner, it sounds like he is not pulling his weight enough and you are managing the entire household (by having to tell him what to do, rather than him do it himself) Would it help if you drew up a chore rota / timetable? He needs to take some of that weight off your shoulders.

Owltrousers - I'm glad your ok now and CBT helped. I'm optimistic it will for me.
Yeah a rota might be a great idea. Tbf he's done all the housework today and taken DSC out, so I'm feeling much better.