DS shouting at preschool - any help?

[theworstwife]

My nearly 4 year old DS keeps getting in trouble for shouting at the teachers at preschool. This mainly seems to be around not wanting to do things like tidy up or transitions from play to group time etc. We have talked to him about it and he’s had a sticker chart there but it doesn’t seem to have helped. He doesn’t have behavioural problems at home and is pretty compliant.

He has mentioned a couple of boys pushing him and trying to stop him telling the teachers. I am going to speak to preschool about this but I don’t think this is the cause of the shouting - they aren’t there many days a week. I had tried to talk to him about why he shouts, how he is feeling and how to manage feeling cross or frustrated but he just says sorry mummy or I don’t know. He hasn’t had any big life changes and is generally a happy boy. Has anyone had anything similar with their DC and/or have any suggestions to improve his behaviour? Thanks

Two suggestions...

1. Ask the preschool teachers to give him a 5 minute warning before transitions (don't underestimate how tricky this will be for them to remember!)
2. Write a social story for/with him. Even better if you can get a few photos from preschool to illustrate it. It would go something like: We do lots of different activities at preschool. First we play, then it is snack time. When it is time to tidy up ready for snack , the teacher rings a bell (or whatever). It is DC's job to stop playing and tidy up, then DC can have a drink and a snack.

Good luck!

Thanks, I think they have attempted some warning around transitions but not sure how consistently. I will make him a social story - thanks for the idea. He has never been a child to have tantrums before so this behaviour is a surprise to us