How old was your baby when you had a night out?

[fromroses]

DD is 10 days old so I'm not looking to leave her just yet but it's my 30th birthday and DH's charity gig at the end of November when she'd be three months old and I'm considering getting a babysitter so DH and I can attend both events (a week apart) baby free. 30th birthday wouldn't be anything special - meal and cocktails and would be happy to do it with DD too but DH's gig is in a pub and his band are on at 10pm so would need a babysitter 9-12 for that one.

Right now I can't imagine wanting to leave her side but I know I'll regret not attending his gig as he's practiced so hard for it (a last hurrah with his old band pre-DC's in aid of a friends fundraiser) and it'll be the last time he plays a real gig maybe ever. Plus it's sufficiently far enough in the future to think about it without panicking.

How old were your DC's when you left them? Was it fine?

About 6 weeks for me, had to sort out my visa and couldn't face the tube with the price (pre any lifts). Didn't leave much in first 2-3 years but always did when opportunity arose eg parents visiting (lived overseas so not often)

I'm.not the best example. I had a night out eaier this year. Ds1 was almost 3, ds2 was 1.

We went to a friend’s wedding (late afternoon/evening) when our first was 7 months. My mum came to stay with her.

Our second is 6 months though and no idea when that would be possible with him. He’s bf (dd was bottle fed by this point), won’t take a bottle, and we don’t really have anyone who could help. My mum is no longer well enough and too old really to cope with 2 and we aren’t close to dh’s family in that way. I have a meeting I need to go to when he’ll be 11 months for the day (dh at home), so mostly just hoping I figure something out before then!

Every baby and situation is different so just go with what feels right at the time.

@fromroses how about getting your sister and a child minder to both be there? Then there's so done your baby knows, plus someone more comfortable if your sister feels out of her depth?

We went out for dinner a month after my little boy was born for our first wedding anniversary. My DM babysat at ours and we were out for about 3/4 hours I think.

My DS is 19 months, I've not had a night out, he is still EBF and fed to sleep 😱
Hoping to go on my works night out, and let my inlaws have him, but abit scared to go out now 🤷‍♀️

I left DS with my Mum for the evening when h was 5 weeks old! I lived with my mum so I didn’t have to leave him for the whole night.

I’ve never really left DD, she is 3 😬 however, once I left her with my mum for 2 hours while we went to an early showing at the cinema and was back by 8!

There’s really no right or wrong. If you have people willing to baby sit who you can trust your children with and you’re ready for a night out - go for it!

3 years old left with my mum

For a night*