Ok so here goes .. for the purpose of the post I'll refer to my Ex mother and law and ex father in law as MIL and FIL.
So I split from a very toxic abusive partner a few months ago (was a long time coming) we had a child together (DD is almost 10 months) he doesn't see our daughter as he is an alcoholic and general low life. I used to get on well with his parents but have became quite honestly fed up of them. The FIL tried to take advantage of me when I was heavily pregnant and my ex disappeared for some time on a Coke/drink binge. I was left alone and was struggling to pay my rent. The FIL offered to help me with my rent that month and in all honestly, I didn't have much choice but to say yes and didn't think anything about it was strange considering I was pregnant with his grand child and his son went awol... but when he started telling me not to tell his wife or son as "they wouldn't be happy" I became quite confused. He then started calling and texting more than usual and started offering me money for jewellery and clothes etc .. (the last thing I needed or wanted at that time was any of that!!) again.. he told me it had to be a secret .. and I couldn't tell his wife or son.. and his son was "crazy" and called me a "dream" I started getting really freaked out by him and told him straight that I wasn't comfortable taking money from him and wouldn't be able to keep secrets etc. So he backed off. I couldn't tell anyone about this as my ex was already pretty crazy at this point and my MIL would have probably been angry at me knowing her, and I'm all honesty I had too much of my own drama at the time. I felt like the FIL was taking advantage of my vulnerability at the time and was being very manipulative and I still resent him to this day and feel VERY uncomfortable in his presence . For a while after having my baby I tried to be civil, almost pretend it didn't happen for the sake of keeping the peace but I really have got to the point where I'm fed up of being the one that gives people the benefit of the doubt . When I was with my ex he told me that his dad would tell him I was using him for financial reasons!!!
Also the MIL, I am fed up giving her the benefit of the doubt also and being the bigger person. When I had my baby I had a stroke, I almost died, and when I expressed that it was a nightmare , she said "it wasn't a nightmare, losing your son is a nightmare" (she lost her other son ten years ago) which, is obviously a horrible thing but does that mean I'm not allowed to have my own feelings ?? She also told me "that I should think myself lucky" and she went on about how she's sick of hearing people complaining about their health. She's also made little comments about my anxiety and they both always made me feel that I was a peasant and commented on my job/ finances. I've put up with a lot from them over time and as I've mentioned, I've always just brushed it off and kept the peace but I really can't do it anymore . Especially since my ex isn't present when I have to see them, so I think it's just became unbearable now.
I don't go to their house anymore as I don't want to have to see my ex if he turns up, so the only way they see my daughter is when they come to my house now and then. I have said several times they can come pick her up, take her out and drop her off later, but they always just shrug and make some excuse. Why do I have to be in their presence every time they see my child?? I honestly don't think I can deal with it anymore. I've only put up with it so far for the sake of my child, but sometimes I think she'll be better off without these poisonous people