6 year old daughter is a jekyll and hyde

[xlaurax27]

i have a few issues i would like comments on, 1st my daughter as always been wary of people mainly men and can take weeks/months to get used to people even my female friends, some people she takes to straight away, me and my other daughter used to cry at strangers when we were babies but grew out of it. she doesnt cry now but if a stranger speaks to her she will hide behind me and if they say anything else she just makes noises back. the other thing is its like living with jekyll and hyde, if she does something funny i cant laugh as she will scream and cry, i can ask her a question and she can kick off, she doesnt swear or punch and kick things but she has destroyed pics and little toys ect she says its cos she gets angry. when grandparents come she refuses to give hugs and kisses , she comes across as very bratty, she pulls her face and she even hissis when spoke to, i just dont no what reaction im going to get when i speak to her.

What is she like at school? Do they have any concerns?

Following as my almost 5yr old is a lot like this.... very anxious around adults, very hissy and self conscious etc, mega separation anxiety, but she is apparently lovely for others..

She hisses? Sorry but that would make me laugh! (Then all hell would be let loose!)

no they dont have any shes fine in school, wasnt so much at 1st just with the stranger thing as she would only take to one teacher.

yes my daughter was like glue to me as a baby till she went school and had no choice, she also refuses to stay at nannas with her other sister cos she will miss me to much.

yes it was funny at first as she sounds like an angry snake. but she does it bratty and for no reason at all just cos shes spoke to

Have you seen a GP about her behaviour? It could be developmental or something like social anxiety disorder. A child psychologist might be able to help her.

Could you try a picture board/drawling pictures because maybe she is feeling something but doesn't know how to articulate it.

i took her dr's and she hates going i did get a follow up appointment but never took her due to her crying about going, she is very clever and not behind mentally in anyway, if she is just being a brat i obviously need to be more strict but just wondering if anyone else is having the same problems