DH told some friends of ours this weekend that he wants SIX children!!!!!

[MrsTittleMouse]

But only if they could appear by magic (I suppose he wants the stork to deliver them!) as he couldn't cope with another labour and delivery.
I'm thinking that he's forgotten about the breastfeeding all through the night. Mind you, I now have a sneaky desire for three (only have 1 DD, conceived with fertility treatment and I'm 36 this year). DD is 7 months and I'm still having physical and emotional problems from a traumatic birth. Are we nuts?!?!?!?

no, you are a mouse.

not nuts at all.

lucky you! I would love to be in that postion. My dh had two little shits from a previous marriage and didnt really want anymore, selfish git.

With a push and a shove I managed to get one but what I really wanted was 10! He just doesnt really like children and finds it hard to cope with their demands over his.

3 is great. But I'm interested in this 'he couldn't cope with another labour and delivery' - it's such hard work for the dad isn't it!

Sometimes my DP says lets have 3 more, sometimes he says he never, ever wants anymore kids,

the latter is usually at 10pm at night when they wont go to bed, lol

As a mouse I should have had a litter of six in one go!

MTM, GO FOR IT, WHY NOT!!! also in regards to you birth, try the birth trauma assocation run by sheils kitzinger. also, maybe have a doula net time so dh doesnt have to be your only support if he found it hard.

Cx

p.s. ' tenalady "two little shits" - please tell me your not refering to children please

Lucky you to have such a child friendly bloke! I have a 4 year gap between my boys, as I couldn't face another labour any sooner. Ofcourse your not nuts. Hope you're getting some help with the post birth problems.

Tena Lady, not your most tactful post!

Tortoise; that was the first thing he said after DD was born "we're never having another, I couldn't cope"! In his defense, he thought that we were both going to die, and in DD's case he was almost right.
Why wouldn't we have any more?
Fertility treatment is expensive and difficult.
It's going to be even more difficult if I can't stand having a speculum inserted.
Everything was done "right" at my labour and delivery, up to the point where DD got stuck (very active labour, supportive MW etc) so there's no real way of making it better next time.
We don't know if we can live now on just DH's income, let alone with two or three.
I felt dreadful all through DD's pregnancy, fatigue and nausea for all three trimesters.
I could go on!
So why on Earth do we want more?!?!!?? We must be crazy!

Aye, what >, what did I say?

Hm, you're right, I am lucky that he and DD get on so well, especially when DD is an age where lots of men wouldn't be interested. Most weekends they go out for "daddy-daughter" time, which by some random coincidence is also "mummy's nap time".

Awww 6 would be lovely, i have 8 and it's great! (i cheated a bit and had 2 sets of twins..lol)

8, lovely, what ages are they all?

Wow! Eight! I am not worthy!
It would be lovely to have a little "gang". Did anyone else see the Paul Merton in China programme? He stayed at the same hotel as the adoptive parents from the USA and their new Chinese daughters (abandoned due to the one-child policy). DH and I really wanted to go over there are adopt them all.