Kids party

[Cakefairy1978]

So, hubby collected my 4 year old from pre school. Son was talking to one little friend when another mum walked up to said friend and said. 'Would you like to come to x birthday party' and gave him an invite. Ignored my son. My son and friend both know the birthday boy but my son was upset and confused as he wanted to go to the party.
Now I accept totally that not all kids can go and it's expensive blah blah but it's the way she did it. She's a bit odd anyway.
Now fast forward a few months...mum's including the odd one are in a group on fb together. I'm sending invites out for my son's birthday...my son isn't bothered about her son..even though they are going to be in same class..

Do I invite him anyway as I worry about how it will look as the other mum's kids are invited ...or just not invite him?
The party is for 10. I can't afford anymore and my husband being protective is saying the other boy isn't invited because of how his mum behaved . Feel like I'm in an awkward situation. Advice anyone?

Rise above the nonsense. Really. You’ve got a few years of this to go and it’s easiest not to engage with people who play tit for tat, or leave out a child because they once bit theirs at 18 months. Dont overthink it.

1. Decide what kind of party your DC suits/wants e.g. 4 or 5 close friends versus whole class
2. Work out what you can afford/ can be bothered with
3. Invite numbers accordingly
4. Remember you don’t have to do this at all, a family tea is also fine!

Don't invite him (you have multiple good reasons not to) - just hand out the invites with a bit more class and discretion than the other mum did!

Don't stress over how not inviting him will look - this won't be the last time that either you or the other mum are in this sort of situation (and vice versa!) re parties. You'll both learn to go with what your kid wants when you're hosting and to not take non-invites personally when it's the other way around.

I would invite him if you can afford it. I wouldn't like it to become a "thing" if they are going to be in the same class, then it's up to him if he attends.
Hope it all goes well

Thanks everyone.