Lazy partner is driving me insane!

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I need to rant to someone so I decided here is the best place

Just had explosive row with my husband to be he is just completely unreasonable. Our little boy is nearly 11 months and super clingy so today has been a tough one but everyone has good days and bad! He comes in from work lying on sofa with all toys still out. I bath the little one and put him to bed come downstairs to make tea and I ask him to sort out drinks for the tea, I ask a few times but don’t hear a response then next minute I know he comes bursting through the door making loads of noise saying that my drink must be so urgent and in general ran round like an idiot to annoy me! I tried to explain that I’m making his tea and didn’t hear him reply but he says I was obviously in a bad mood so taking it out on him!!!

Seriously does anyone else struggle with oh? I have found it harder since having baby as I just don’t have the energy to look after both of them! He doesn’t cook, do chores, wash dishes, bathroom etc I have to do it all yet I’m unreasonable!

We are due to get married in November and sometimes I do question if this is going to be our lives from now on me constantly nagging to try and get things done!

Please give me some reassurance that it’s not me being unreasonable.

sorry for rant but it feels good to vent!

Before you get married you need to do some serious talking. He needs to know how you feel and what you'd appreciate going forward.

What he's doing is unacceptable; not because you're doing it but because he expects you to do it.
Have you ever raised this issue with him before?

Thanks for replying! Yes but he says I just nag him and then like tonight says I’m just annoyed because I had a bad day which isn’t the case at all! I think the thing that has tipped me over the edge tonight is him trying to make as much noise as possible to wake our boy (light sleeper) just to annoy me as I’m the one that has to settle him.

I need to calm down before I speak to him!

Xx

Nagging is just Lazy Husband speak for asking.
Decent husbands don't even need to be asked

Ugh, my ex was like this. He never changed! It just got worse. No way i would marry him.
You need a big sit down with him, but unfortunately when somebody is this selfish and lazy it’s highly unlikely they will change

I know how you feel. My husband thinks the earth revolves around his back side

Thanks guys it’s so frustrating. Going to have a long chat tonight !!!

Has he ever spent a whole day alone with dc ? Might do him good

I think he needs to spend more time with his DS. My DH was a bit lazy when we had our DDs even though there was a small age gap (18 months). He came back from work late so girls were in bed by 6.30. He did no night feeds and did not get up in the morning. Moaned there was no tea ready for him and spent weekends doing DIY projects which we could not afford anyway. I got a Saturday job so he had to look after them and believe me he got a lot more helpful after that. I think some men just don't think.