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NotHereToJudge · 19/08/2018 17:38

I feel like I have come to the end of my relationship with my partner of two years.

We have a 7 month old baby and ever since he was born our relationship has been very, well crap!!

We don't get on, he annoys me even when he doesn't do anything, he is quite lazy and I'm not, he sits on his phone all day long and does nothing on his day off... literally gets up about 10 and then sits on the sofa all day till bed time leaving me to deal with our son alone. He has a terrible spending habit that he feels the need to spend money all the time, he can't just buy what he needs, i don't know if it's some sort of actual problem, I've asked but he says no. I've just never come across someone who needs to buy things all the time. We have very little spare money especially while I'm on maternity leave and I'm constantly finding out that he has bought stuff when we needed to pay the electric bill!!!

Everything he does or doesn't do now annoys me and we argue constantly. He then thinks we are ok again because I give up having the same conversation and we go to bed and tries to sleep with me and I'm so not interested anymore. I'm so turned off by his behaviour during the day I actually find it a joke that he thinks then I'm going to sleep with him after all that!!
He can be very controlling too, looks through my phone, asks who I talk to all the time, didn't want me to pass my driving test, hates it when I have the car and drop him at work - heh constantly messages me where am I what am I doing.

I know I'm better off ending this. Tbh I just want me and my little boy But how do I end it. I don't want to hurt him

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arbrighton · 19/08/2018 17:39

Be honest. It will hurt him but the longer you leave it, the worse it will be

WooYa · 19/08/2018 17:42

You don't want to hurt him but clearly he's hurting you. If you think he can change and you want him to then sit down and talk to him. If you don't think he can then either tell him to leave or you leave.

Rach000 · 20/08/2018 08:18

Think you need to leave him and I wouldn't worry about hurting him as he isn't making the effort. I have a 7 months old as well as a 3 year old and my husband can annoy me at times and be a bit lazy but we still get on and if I tell him to do some house work or look after the kids he will do. I don't always have to ask just sometimes as he knows we have kids now and that's what happens. It is hard with a baby as you don't get the time as a couple.

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