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Practical Ideas and Methods to help your little ones sleep.

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lailasmum · 04/06/2007 16:32

Got any practical ideas or methods to help get babies and toddlers to sleep? We are all different and as the CC thread proved, some methods are more emotive than others. It could be a good idea if someone who uses controlled crying actually explains the method and their experiences.

Our fail safe method, nothing that exciting or new, is reading to our daughter. She generally will fall asleep after a story or 10, but I never try and get her to bed unless she is actually tired. She also really likes a story cd of Winnie the Pooh or the House at Pooh Corner. The Alan Bennet version which is the BBC radio Collection. Its also nice and long so she can listen for ages if she wants. There was a version recently that was given away with a paper which she doesn't like as much as the piglet voice is rather screechy and tends to jog her out of a dose with a bit of a start if she is dropping off.

When she was very little we used to play calming classical music in the evenings as it helped everyone relax. It wasn't anything specific, just what ever we wanted to listen to. I used to use baby massage as well as this helped to relieve the wind that was the main thing that kept her awake-still do sometimes.

Of course we are not always perfect and we have our good and bad days like anyone.

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rookiemum · 04/06/2007 18:01

I love gro bags, just wish I had thought to use them when our DS was really tiny.

It means he doesn't wake up cold because the covers have come off and also he knows its bed time when he sees it, and we are reassured that he will be warm enough as well.

Always buy them as presents for new mums.

beansprout · 04/06/2007 18:03

Gro bags are a wonderful thing.

Lavender oil (in a burner, couple of drops before bedtime) worked well for ds. It's also been helpful when going away as the smell reminds him of his room and smell is of course, the most evocative sense.

lailasmum · 04/06/2007 18:04

Yes and those all-in-one fleecy suits are nice too, no cold tummies or toes. Wish they did them in adult sizes, I expect they do somewhere.

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DaddyJ · 04/06/2007 18:06

Learn to recognise the sleep cues.

With our dd there are the obvious ones - yawning, rubbing eyes -
but also rubbing her ear and, very odd this, getting the giggles.

lailasmum · 04/06/2007 18:08

Hair twirling is one my daughter does. She also used to pull her ears when she was really tiny.

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DaddyJ · 04/06/2007 18:15

And another cue: she becomes more clingy, wants to be held and demands our presence.

DaddyJ · 04/06/2007 18:37

Having done all the sensible things, e.g. put lo in a grobag, made the room nice and dark etc, the big question is:
is there a problem with lo's sleep?

If you think so, do you want to go down the routine + sleeptraining path, e.g.
NCSS or CC?

Or do you prefer to be led by baby and do co-sleeping?

Or: do nothing. That has worked for some, too!

blueshoes · 04/06/2007 20:15

nursing/feeding to sleep. Wheeling in buggy or driving to sleep. Then co-sleeping.

Nothing else worked for dd or ds.

OonaghBhuna · 04/06/2007 20:26

A warm bath followed by some baby massage and a lovely bottle of milk/or breast!
However if there are sleep issues like I have experienced with DD1 the sshh pat method always works ( eventually) You stay with them the whole time and reassure them and basically sshh pat them over to sleep. Its hard work at first but after a few days its relatively easy. Before we used this method it was taking us 2-3 hrs to get her to go to sleep and every time we put her in the cot she would wake up. After using ssh pat for a few days we had got the time down to 10 minutes!!!
However despite her sleep issues I think its always important to remember there is always a reason for the crying. I would also recommend gro bags they are great.

lailasmum · 05/06/2007 07:24

Never heard of the sssh pat method, sounds nice. Sometimes when my daughter was really little and a bit over tired we noticed that if we held her really close we could stroke a small areas of her body like a leg or the back of her hand then she would focus on that and drop off.

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Janberryxx · 07/01/2009 17:13

What a great idea for a thread, Lailasmum!
I managed to get my baby to sleep through almost by accident! I decided to follow the advice where you put the baby down to sleep awake but relaxed rather than breast feeding her to sleep. She always falls asleep during the breastfeed so I save changing her nappy and putting her into sleepsuit and sleeping bag, until AFTER the feed. It usually has the effect of waking her. Sometimes she cries when she is really tired. Othertimes she cooes and chats. But mostly she becomes so active that I worry that I've blown it and will never get her back to sleep!
During this bedtime feed, i play a gentle lullaby (always the same one) for ten mins and do the feed in very low light. I then change her (again in low light) then pick her up, cuddle and gently rock her for a minute or two. When it seems she's relaxed back down, i kiss her, say night night, and put her in her cot. To my astonishment she just rolls over and goes to sleep!
Believe me it wasn't always like this until I broke the link between feed and sleep!
This seems to have the effect of helping her to resettle herself back to sleep if she wakes in the night.
HOWEVER,I'm now back at square one. I started getting lazy about making sure to change her AFTER the feed instead of before. This, and the final straw of feeding her to sleep during the night when she was ill (which I still think was the right thing to do)has meant that she now wakes howling once or twice a night, and won't settle till I've fed her back to sleep.

So, I must begin again. It worked last night for her initially falling to sleep (which was good!) but she woke howling at 1.30 am, and I decided not to feed her back to sleep (she's 8 months so doesn't need it). It took 90 mins to resettle her. It was awful but hopefully we'll win through if I keep at it!

Janberryxx · 08/01/2009 22:44

She slept through last night- HURRAY!

fINGERS CROSSED!!!

MollyCherry · 09/01/2009 09:43

Counting backwards from 100 (or forwards for v. young children - when they are a bit older doing it backwards stops them trying to join in )
Have done this with DD from age 3 (now 4.4). She has a story, a couple of songs then counting by which time she is usually sparko.
It only takes aabout 10 minutes, if that, and is a smallprice to pay to know I can go downstairs and enjoy my evening without the patter of tiny feet up and down the landing every 10 minutes until she drops off!

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grouchyoscar · 09/01/2009 19:14

For DS it was

Bath/wash and clean teeth
Fresh clothes
Bedtime Story
Teddy and blanket
CD of stories/nursery rhymes/Velvet Underground/Bruce Springsteen very quietly on a little stereo

Worked a treat

naturalbaby · 09/01/2009 21:36

am trying to get our 8 month old used to falling asleep by himself so he can do it if he wakes up at 4am, but sometimes can't resist holding him till he falls asleep in the day and stroking his head/face at night. sometimes, if he's feeling a bit clingy he has to hold my other hand/arm at the same time which melts my heart. poor thing then gets all worked up when i get pins and needles and have to stop so am really not helping by doing it in the first place!
generally i cuddle him till he's almost aleep then put him down so he's too tired/content to protest but still registers what's going on.

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