Soo myself and my Oh are very fortunate (or sometimes not 😂) to have our mums live locally. Both my mother and stepfather and my partners Mum and her partner are good grandparents but my mother and mil seem to hate each other.
I cannot pin point a reason why. I actually don’t think there’s a reason why. My mother made an effort with mil but she seems to hate my mum. Now my mum isn’t keen on her because of her ways.
Mil was always saying things like make sure I’m first to know when’s DD was born and first to see scan photos prior to this. She also seems to get funny when DS spends spend time with my mum. DS is from my previous relationship and he has always been incredibly close to my mum as I lived at home still when he was a baby.
She’s always making digs at my family. She will not come over if she knows they are here (birthdays etc). Me and OH have been together 6 years and they’ve literally only met three times.
I admit my family can be a bit loud and crazy but completely harmless and friendly too. Aren’t all families a little crazy? They’ve never done anything to upset her that I am aware of.
My mother added her as a fb friend about 3 years ago and has never accepted. Whereas she very friendly with her daughters new boyfriends family (they’ve been together a few months). They are even invited to her birthday party tomorrow. My mother doesn’t expect an invite or anything.
What would you do in this situation? Can it be normal for in laws not to really get on or see each other very often? (3 times in 6 years!)
Sorry I know this is the wrong catergory. 😬